I applogize in advance for this could be kind of long, but I hope you will read it for your own insight, since tonight I've learned something very important about girls....
I am THE Denki otoko, but for a quick background I'm an Electrical Engineering student at a 4 year university who is your typical anime/gamer freak. My previous attempts at a relationship with a girl who recently graduated high school didn't work out. She and I had very little in common with each other, enough so that we ran out of things to talk about, and I ended up boring her and she told me that she didn't want a relationship. We haven't spoken since, and I prefer to keep it that way considering how she was sending me the mixed feelings.
One thing I dont get, why must there be always something to talk about? I keep getting the impression that us guys have to engage in convo with the girl during the whole time together, sooner or later topics gets exhausted right?
>>2 I've had that problem. In a normal relationship it's not such a threat since you can go out and have experiences together that give you more things to talk about. In long distance relationships, though, conversation is vital, and if you start to run out of things to talk about, the relationship might not work out. I'm sure there's a way to avoid this, such as simply finding new things to talk about! But some people just aren't good at conversation. As for me, I have to get to know someone before I can really talk to them about anything that's on my mind. On top of that, I have myself stuck in such a rut that I don't come across good conversation topics often unless I see it on TV (as in, even though I'm on the internet for a few hours per day usually, I hardly ever visit sites outside of the sites I visit every day such as 4-ch, LiveJournal, DeviantArt etc.).
OP here. The high school girl was like that, but this same love interest of mine seem to not have that problem, fortunately. She likes to talk more than me, and we set each other off in conversation on even the most mundane topics, but as we both enjoy each other's company so much it really doesn't matter what we talk about.
good luck ^^
Sounds good, Denki. Progress was there in the first place, you just had to put some more initiative forward...and look where its gotten ya.
Thanks guys. Tonight we're gonna go to a picnic together and watch fireworks for the 4th, should be fun. I'll keep you informed.
oh dang... I dislike churches especially when there is a lover in there. Make sure that the love you discover for God is not your desire for that girl. Anyway... go for it!
frigid onanoko ≠ atheist... but wary
Good advice, I'll keep that in mind. By coincidence I'm Christian as well, so our beliefs aren't far off. If nothing else, this girl has given me the excuse to become closer to God considering how busy I was killing myself with electrical engineering. Things are going quite well thus far, haven't gotten up the courage to kiss her yet but I'm working on it. She and a bunch of my friends are all going camping this weekend, should be fun.
Things went very well on the camping trip, me and my buddy made it a big double date of sorts, since we are both dating these two sisters. I'm gonna set a goal for myself that I have to kiss her at some point soon. Any advice as to how to ease into that situation?
First she needs to be very comfortable around you. And when the moment is right, just lean in for the kiss.
Just do it?