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1 Name: Nick : 2006-07-01 23:40 ID:HoZcLOFq

Theres this girl I fell in love with. I really love her and I already told her, but our relationship is somewhat weird. She actually thinks Im too good for her... she puts herself in a bad light all the time and speaks as if I would be a prince in a fairy-tale.

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2 Name: Desperate otoko (no ko) : 2006-07-02 00:22 ID:GjMCixag

It's always one or the other isnt it?! It's either you are not good enough or you are beyond their wildest dreams and they fear they can't match you.
All I can say, even though I'm not that experienced myself, is that keep pushing it, subtly and gently that is. Hopefully sooner or later the girl will come around that you really care for her. Or perhaps I watched too much HK and JP Drama...

3 Name: holdincourt : 2006-07-03 07:06 ID:diGMjAA7

OK, I don't get...you're in a relationship with this girl, right?
I think if your virginity is a common topic coming from her mouth, then you should talk to her about it...and not in the joking way you've posted.

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4 Name: Nick : 2006-07-03 12:06 ID:9ibjyALo

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I don`t know about the relationship, its pretty weird. We kiss and we talk about sex and we give presents to each other and we phone till late night etc., but she says were not a couple. And the virginity: I only joked this one time about it. Im actually serious about this topic most of the time, as she seems really concerned about it. I told her that she doesnt have to worry about me. In my opinion, she is the perfect girl and I couldnt be happier if I got the opportunity to get intimate with her. She only said, that she feels unconfortable because of said reasons: REsponsibility and me being too good for her. BS imo...

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-03 13:29 ID:387GqHYw

ehh. she has issues. perhaps you really are too good for her. maybe instead of complaining about it all the time, she could actually do stuff for you instead.

ps. weIRD fONts r ANnoyiN TO reAD.

6 Name: Mireille guy : 2006-07-03 20:10 ID:D6eNmuNH

Nick, she's feeling guilt of some sort. Relieve her of that pressure and tell her it's ok. Make sure you express your desire to become a couple (If really that's what you want). Since this is a christian setting, you could help her find repentance and/or atonement for her sin. You could read Psalms 51 to her, which David sang after he lusted for Betseba and sent her husband Urias to die in war. Let it be clear to her that she sinned against God and God alone, and there is no reason for her to take it on against herself or repent to you but repent to God. I guess that's it, she has a sin problem. Who doesn't? If she really repents to God, then she will come and ask for forgiveness to men as well, that means to you. Imho that should restore your relation.

7 Name: Mireille guy : 2006-07-03 20:11 ID:D6eNmuNH

oops, last word typo: relationSHIP.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-03 22:33 ID:SsCc2JKg

Or maybe she's just toying with you and has fun that way.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-06 18:36 ID:Heaven

Here's another idea, you go ahead and pray to God that she should turn around, if you are righteous through Christ your wish will be granted(if you are righeous you know what I mean by "pray"), because if so your will is in accordance with Gods. If not, wether or not you two will hook up is anyones guess and if you do it might end badly either way.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-14 02:03 ID:Heaven

Uh, these kind of situations are scary to me. 'cause that means she has this godly image of you and if you step out of it, it'll have a bigger impact than it would normally if she didn't worship you.