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is it unusual... (7)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-06 11:28 ID:h/b55Aa5

...to not want someone as their own, but to want the "object of their affection" to be happy?
most of the ime, I se people (in fiction AND IRL) that seem to be in relationships for themselves alone. even if the person they're with wants to call it off for a good reason, they treat it like they were trying to kill them.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-06 14:05 ID:Uq06bq3r

Yes. It means you are a faggot.

3 Name: frigid onanoko : 2006-07-06 16:02 ID:AmNlmvHX

No. its not unusual. But asking about this is a bit odd... Are your parents divorced and do you have no siblings or what?

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-07 05:00 ID:Heaven

Hang in there, Tomoyo-chan. Your time will come.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-08 12:20 ID:jZIO9IwJ

>>4
Is there a post that you DON'T reply to??

@OP: have you ever been cheated on?

6 Name: Amarok : 2006-07-08 12:55 ID:Ur4BlIgW

>>1
I don't think this is such a strange question at all, just proves you are thinking. Not a lot of people do that these days.

My take on it is that in reality love is not a one way street in any direction, no one gets into it because they only feel for the others, nor do they get into it because they only want to satisfy themselvs. Love is what both of these things happen, you DO watch out for your own interests because YOU feel good being with this person, however do want to make them happy. It doesn't sound like the love you see many people in society describe it as, but in my experience this is as real as it gets. Love is a two way street, your not on it for just yourself nor are you just in it for them. (this goes for romantic love obviously, family love doesn't operate under such restrictions because you don't get the same experience out of it)

7 Name: frigid onanoko : 2006-07-08 14:34 ID:AmNlmvHX

Today frigid onanoko give you extra super reply!!! (/^_^)/ Yaey!

The word you are looking for is altruism. or perhaps the term altruistic sensitivity. In the social sciences people are frequently modelled as egoistic and rational. Perhaps all of what we call altruism can be explained by the notion of (egoistic) rational individualism. (I'd rather not debate that) This assumption of human behaviour is very succesful in models.

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