Ok, so the story goes like this. I went for a 1 week vacation to Lloret de Mar, Spain. For those who don't know, this is, among Ibiza and Mallorca, one of the most famouse "fuck towns" Spain has. Mostly Dutch, British, German and Russian people come there to party around and fuck around.
This is not interesting at all. We need epic stuff man, that's entertainment, not this generic emo garbage. You should know better than this. Listen up, I'll give you another shot at it but make it count, okay?
Her trust seems thoroughly misplaced. You know what, motherfucker, if you like her and want to help her, spend time with her and let her loosen up in her own pace. If you can't do that you really just want to fuck her, and I bet you'll be out the door and on your way as soon as you've tired of that, and then her trust-issue will be fucking worse of than it was to begin with.
work with her emotionally. just be there for her. it sounds like she has a sexual disorder (for good reason). maybe you guys should seek out a pyschologist that specializes in sexual psych. I remember reading about this in one of my psych courses, there are things you can do. Sort of like easing her into it.
Well of course she got a sexual disorder. I mean, yeah I know it should hurt the first time, but not to this extent. Of course I'm not going to push her because she is also nice to just hang around like this. It's just, I know how it sounds like I'm just thinking about myself, but it will be burden for her future life if she can't get over it. I mean ok, she's 19, plenty of time, but still, the sooner she can let go the easier it'll be for her.
Psychiatrist is a modern solution for a society where the people who matter to the sick can't afford the time and effort to be there for them in a way that they need. Sure a shrink may "help", so might pills in some cases, but if a bonebreak don't heal the right way your limb will be weaker than it could be for the rest of your life. If you really care about her, find her a guy who will love her and stick with her, or be that guy yourself. If you think you'll help her by making sure she can fuck, fuck her and then move on, you will do her no good, perhaps you will even turn her into something worse.
Thanks, I'll try to be a good support for her. Oh and if I seemed to be a selfish dick, seriously, I'm not, it's just the writing style I absorbed from 4chan :)
Wait a minute. She got raped with 11 what?
Stop manipulating weak girls and grow yourself some testicles.
At the very least, suggest to this girl some therapy. Incidents like that, especially at that age, tend to become pretty deep rooted in a person's psycological and sexual development, and usually therapy's the only good way to help this.
Huh? Me, trying to manipulate? Tell me how I am manipulating her. If you maybe care to read my posts, I'm asking how to HELP her get better with the whole incident!
Take your time. If you care about her, let her set the pace for your relationship. Otherwise, if all you care about is that half-decent handjob and blowjob you got out of it, please gb2/4chan.
The thing is, I don't even know if I want a relationship with her. She's obviously more or less in love with me...well it seems like that anyway. But I, I dunno....I kinda just want her to get well and so I wanna be there for her. Not as a boyfriend, but as someone she can trust. Well, the whole thing is still fresh, there'll be enough time to figure things out. Thanks anyway 4ch/love
Fuck her asshole and cum on her tits and face. Then ponder if it was good or not. If it was, then do it again. If not, you should /quit.
I'm going to have to agree with this fellow.
I live in the netherlands and speak fluent german. :3
but that is totally irrelevant to this story...
unfortunately I can't be of help. I only know a little freud, and everybody knows freud is just one letter away from fraud. Possibly there might be no cure. Think about what you want from a long term love relation. If sex is part of it (and why should that be wrong?) then you have to draw a line.
Well if you don't want to stay with her, that probably means you will have to break it off with her. Perhaps it's good to look up the best ways to break up with her, or maybe you can somehow find a way to be only friends, though having sex so early really hurts the chances of that. I suppose give her what you can to her for love and support.
You don't to be in a relationship with her, but you want her to get over her sex-problems. Do you know what kind of a message that would send her?
If she were to get over her sex-problems, that would imply her having sex and being okay with it. Otherwise, how would she know if she was over it? And if so, who would she turn for for having sex? The guy who helped her (you), right?
Hmm. I think differant things work for differant people. but...
be there for her, obviously.
You people seem to be misunderstanding my situation. I am not in love with her...well I think that I'm not in love, at least. I dunno how to describe it, the reason I'm with her is not some dumb "lol just stick with it and then you'll get teh sexorz", but it's also not some heroic "I'll be there for you and help you with life". I dunno if you know it, but maybe it's this feeling you get that you just have to...well, "protect" someone.
Well I suggest you keep helping her out no matter what! And when the time comes when she'll most likely confess her feelings for you tell her what you now feel at that time! Sometimes love needs to develope, At first you won't like them and all of a sudden you realize your in love. So if your in love with her then say it if not, then take it easy on her and tell her that you only see her as a friend.
what are you ...Jesus? Do you gotta go around saving all the abused Victims on the Planet. Are you Addicted to Victim Consciousness? (deep sigh, whatever)
If you Love this person, then stick around; but let her know that you're seeing other bed-partners, because you ENJOY sex, and you know she doesn't. Who CARES if she understands or not; the Truth is you Like-to-have Sex; and she's addicted to suffering & living in the past. Speaking as someBody who was Raped... i learned to let it go, so that i could enjoy living TODAY. And just because i'm not a (week)Chick doesn't mean chicks can't do the same.