Ever since I dumped my horrific ex-boyfriend, I've been eyeing a guy at work. He's very nice, polite, patient and an overall sweetheart. I've never seen him lose his temper, and even his Myspace is clean of any sort of oddness (I know, "lol myspaces"). Anyway, I wanted to know if I should try and ask him out. So far, we've just been casually friendly with one another. We don't hang out or see each other outside of work. I've heard from a few guys that if they saw a girl try and hit on them, they'd think she was desperate and creepy. But I absolutely hate sitting around and waiting when it's obvious no one will ever talk to me. I'm not desperate, just impatient.
Now you're just acting silly. Would you want to sit your whole life around, waiting for someone to ask you? Many guys are shy or just don't notice something, some of them also have problems with asking someone out, so where's the problem in giving them some hints or actually going straightforward? It's not like we'Re living in the victorian ages where you have to act all pompous
>>To the males of the forum: would you like a girl to talk to you? Has it happened to you?
Personally I wouldn't mind if a girl would ask me out. I'm shy and don't have much self confidence, but if a girl told me that she likes me I'd be happy and go out with her. Well... unless she's some psychopat killer or something. :P
GO FOR IT!
If she's going out with other guy, don't interfere. If she likes you and you like her and she is single. Just ask her out, there's nothing to lose.
I wouldn't mind a girl asking me out either. But I had to ask my gf, she is traditional that way I suppose. I had been eyeing her and subtly hitting on her for months, then I heard from one of her friends that she thought I was cute and was hoping I'd ask her out. This taught me a lesson of don't wait, just go for it. So I asked her without fear and she said yes, thus we're happy together now.
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Ask him out, and don't be too subtle about it. "Nice"-type guys, myself included, tend to have problems catching signals.
DO WANT very much.
End of thread.
I am suffering from the same choice, do i 'ask him out' or tell him i fancy him... i think he may like me but dont actually know!!! its the fear of rejection stopping me.
you sound like a great girl and i think he likes you... so i say GO FOR IT!!!
You sound like a great girl and i think he likes you... so i say GO FOR IT!!!
I'd love for a girl to hit on me. I don't see why a guy would find it creepy. For the most part, a guy hitting on a girl seems just as creepy, if you want to look at it that way.
It's happened before, but I didn't realize until like 1 year later >.>; You've gotta be direct about it and your intentions.
i've never paid any attention to the girls who liked me / hit on me. i've had it happen - only to realize months later (or even years later).
there was this one girl in my econ class who seemingly tried to tease / flirt with me, and always sat next to me. i thought she was just creepy. i didn't know wtf she was trying to do.
going to agree with #14 here . guys dont expect girls to hit on them.
No, we don't, but it's certainly a nice change. I wish more women were straightforward about their feelings, instead of being so damn subtle. The most blunt signals I've gotten were one watching me eat and telling me I smell nice. Now if that's blunt, then what's normally subtle for a girl? Some of us just never learn how to function socially.
Actually I've had the exact opposite reactions from guys. After moving to a new school I found that a few of the guys believed that I had been hitting on them. I was totally oblivious until I heard a couple of them gossiping about me -_-. Of course I found it all very presumptuous of them. I genuinely thought they were being friendly with the "new girl". I don't know if it's a race thing, because I'm referring to asian guys. Perhaps asian guys tend to read into things too much. Or maybe I'm just being too naive to think that a girl can just simply have a good time with a guy.
that's only cause the guys there liked you. if the guy likes you already, he'll prolly think you want him (well any confident guy would). now ... if the guys didn't like you, they wouldn't give a fuck about you.
You sound fat. For you that might be a DO NOT WANT
I'll have to second that. If you're fat nothing said in this thread applies. Lose some weight fatty!
Sad but true. Us guys judge a girl by her appearance (what am I saying, everyone judges by appearance). Generally if a girl isn't cute, we don't want to be approached by her. And if a girl is really cute, we don't really expect to be approached (unless we're really popular, arrogant, etc.). So I guess you could say we either don't want to be approached by you, or don't expect to be. So if you're cute, it might take a guy by suprise, but he probably won't mind it at all.
I guess it's no use to speak out of personal preference when you're kind of unusual, but I don't care all that much about appearance, really. Also I don't mind if a girl has some fat on her, quite the opposite I think thats better than skinny.
I have no girls chasing me orz
cause he's orzin'
>Sad but true. Us guys judge a girl by her appearance (what am I saying, everyone judges by appearance). Generally if a girl isn't cute, we don't want to be approached by her. And if a girl is really cute, we don't really expect to be approached (unless we're really popular, arrogant, etc.). So I guess you could say we either don't want to be approached by you, or don't expect to be. So if you're cute, it might take a guy by suprise, but he probably won't mind it at all.
OP don't listen to those shitheads. XD I'm thinking the rude posts are from idiots whose balls have yet to drop. Even if you are fat, what advice I'm about to give still applies, because believe it or not, many guys care about persona as much as, if not more than, your appearence.
I´m very shy and guys don´t usually hit on me =´(
>Anyways, I wouldn't approach him, because if he likes you, then he will approach you.
Only in the workplace. There are better times than on the job to make your move.
There isnt anything wrong with a girl asking a guy out. Hell if it wasnt for that I would of ended up going to my HS graduation alone.
But considering how much I liked the girl before she asked me, and what happened at grad, I wish she never did.
For a lot of people the only place they meet girls is on the job.
Not saying I'm like that though... our office is 100% male. :-/