I recently met this guy, he is really really lovely. Not the kind of guy i thought i would ever find attractive. Since meeting him i have seen him almost every weekend and we talk almost every day. I think he is a bit shy and has never had a girlfriend. Do i wait around in the hopes that he likes me back or do i get over it and move on. (he is a bit of a geek(ment in the nicest possible way) and i am not) I just dont know him very well and cant 'read' him.
Tell he something, if he is shy he won't tell you if likes you.
I dont want to say anything to him unless i know that he may like me in return, i am not keen on rejection
You don't like him all that much then. Carry on.
i do, thats the problem. i like him more than i ever have anyone. and although he takes time to invite me over and talk to me, he is so 'cool' about it. Sometimes i think i just annoy him. thats what frustrates me the most, because i really like him
If you're not a geek, then how did you know about 4ch?
Sorry, if he's shy, you'll almost certainly have to make the first move, and we all know this goes against traditional gender roles so much that you could hang for it. A girl pursuing a guy, what a ridiculous concept!
Girls pursuing guys, rediculous concept? Do you get out much I wonder? They may be a bit more indirect at times but holy fuck do they ever give it a rest?!
definitely do not do anything stupid like confessing this to him. It'll be way too surprising and disturbing - maybe taking weeks for him to recover even so much as returning speaking levels.
Instead, try to flirt. Horrible advice, if I say so myself - I have a lot of difficulty with it - but its the only method suitable to not getting rejected. In my opinion, flirting means to talk/joke about light subjects in which you say or imply positive things related the other person. For example, you could laugh out and say its so funny how his nose twitches when he talks, as if you just realised it then and there. Smile at the same time so he knows you're not laughing about him. See what his reaction is.
>>Instead, try to flirt. Horrible advice, if I say so myself - I have a lot of difficulty with it - but its the only method suitable to not getting rejected
What bullshit is this? Sneak around, don't be upright, he probably can't handle the truth? You wanna know what I think of women who are too afraid to say what they think and feel and play games instead?
Many, many years from now you will look back at your life. You won't regret the things you did, but the ones that you did not do. I think you should do it before he becomes too attached and it's like OMG YOU ARE LIKE MY BEST FRIEND ^____^ You may be rejected but it's better than spending the rest of your life wondering "What if..."
Nothing wrong with "best friend", it's like the perfect ground for a relationship, because you should not be with someone who isn't also your best friend.
All good but coflicting advice, the majority of it seems to say i should just go for it
as to flirting suggested by >>8 i do know how to flirt, just have never done it with him because he was not the kind of guy i felt instantly attracted to.
>Its very well possible that after you tried your flirting, he lies in bed late at night and only then realizes that maybe your odd behaviour could be interpreted as some move by you.
If he never had a girlfriend before, no experience, then this is very likely.
>>there was one instance when i was at his house and his baby brother staretd crying into his shoulder, and i said to our other friend 'this is the effect i have on men' (it was a joke) and then he said 'so what am i?'
>BTW, guys can be real blockheads. Its very well possible that after you tried your flirting, he lies in bed late at night and only then realizes that maybe your odd behaviour could be interpreted as some move by you. Therefore, his reaction may be delayed by a few days.
go for it
hmm.. you really sound like some1 I know ^^
if you're not a dork howcome you're posting on 4-ch?
it was something he mentioned.
i met him a while ago and then he called me and invited me ova to his house (the second time we met) and i had never given him my number... he must have got it from his mum (friend of my mum)
I am on iichan cause its something he mentioned, and i was just comenting on the fact that he called me to invite me ova to his... and this was the second time i met him, he must have got the number from his mum cause i neva gave him my number...
>>I am on iichan cause its something he mentioned
lol. if he mentioned it, chances are he is reading this...
>if he mentioned it, chances are he is reading this...
( ﾟ -ﾟ) Yeah.
I don't get it, what do you want to do?
This is America, right? (Well, considering you use "mum" you're probably Australian, Canadian, British or something, but still..) It's not like you're going to/have to confess to him or ask him to marry you.
THIS ISN'T IICHAN. IICHAN IS FULL OF FAGGOTS. OKAY, THIS PLACE IS TOO, BUT IT'S STILL NOT IICHAN.
Well newsflash, 4-ch is an entire sub-category under Discussion on iichan, so TECHNICALLY this is, therefore part of iichan. And perhaps the faggotry influx can thus be explained.
YEAH AND THE ENTIRE INTERNET IS A SUB-CATEGORY ON GOOGLE
I hope he sint reading this, but have just realised that you are right... he probably has/will. oh dear
( ﾟ -ﾟ) I really do hope he gives her some mittens.
I think you should get to know him, get to become his friend..
As someone who might be considered shy, I know how hard it is for me to ask out a girl in any situation. Likely is.. if he likes you t all, he won't show it. You have to get him to open up..
Yeah. It would be nice IF YOU MADE A MOVE ON HIM. Because nerdy guys like us here can't find the strength to admit it. If we did, it was because he had a lot of people supporting him! But.....Chances still are You have to make the move! If he was gonna do it, he would've posted it on 4ch to get help! But looks like he doesn't know this place.
We "nerdy" guys are the nicest kind of guys, but we are just shy mostly. You've got to make the first move
Another girl came to this forum with a similar problem. I solved her problem by telling her to add a simple sentence to her conversation. Simply add "and I like you" casually to any sentence.
You could go like, "The weather is so nice today, and I like you". Guys are dumb. Just repeat it if he doesn't get it. Then you ask, "And you?"
Most nerdy guys have odds going for them because they like to learn without caring that others label them as nerds. They got "pride" so to speak. That usually helps in one way or another.
They are not necessarily "nicest" but simply, social retards that don't distiguish between passiveness, submission and shyness (and none of these are synonyms for nice).
I told him, he likes me. yay
now its just case of wait and see what happens next time i see him and how we are around one another, have talked a bit since i told him.
just worried he has read this, know who he is and ive scared him off somehow...
oh well whats done is done i suppose
OKay! but remember what most of us said! Nerdy guys like us are the nicest guys you'll ever meet yet we are too shy! and yes we all do have a sense of a pride! But were also very sensative! Were very easy to break! You do something wrong to hurt his feelings.....He'll probably think your playing him.
Good job. The woman making the move is so rare in this world.