Please help me! There's this girl. We only talked over the phone. I called her last sunday and we talked for more than an hour. I really get to like her, she seems an interesting girl. She's currently away but will be coming back next week. I want to meet her. The problem is that she wants me to send her a photo of myself.
I'm not ugly or anything but I look very different on photos than in real.
Just be honest and say that you look bad in photos. Make a joke out of it and be really confident when you say that you want to meet her in real life. That way you don't seem like you chickening out of anything.
If she goes bitch over a shitty picture who would care about losing her? Seriously, it's like a quality-control for you too.
I;m more curious on how this all came about...you just picked up the phone and randomly called someone?
Nope, there was a radio dating program where they read in introduction SMS messages with the sender's number.
I just picked a few numbers and this girl's was one of them.
A photo can ruin the image she has conjured up of you. This is one of the major problems with long-distance meeting. People can accept you at first glance, but a photo breaks everything they thought they knew, it contradicts what they've learned. It's difficult to augment it into their imagination.
Well, I found a recent photo of myself which was taken on a holiday. It's a little dark and has a calm town street in the background. I shopped it a little to make it look better and sent it to the girl.
She was on a short holiday and she told me she'll send me an SMS when they get back and she did send me one right after they passed the country border. Shall I consider this as a good sign?
About that you can consider as a good sign.
Why don't you try to meet her instead of just sending a photo ?
Like I wrote in the first post, she is currently away. She lives 200 km away but she studies here on the university. She'll come back for the new semester on th 7th, so I can meet her next weekend. But she asked for a photo, and I didn't want to look like an idiot so I didn't refuse it.
I'm sorry for my mistake.
By the way, have you sent her your photo already? How about her respond? Is that ok?
Well, she replied to my email, but didn't write anything, just sent me a picture of herself... Not a hot chick, but she's ok. Kinda looks like my mom. :P
I sent her an SMS but I got no response yet. I just hope that this doesn't mean that she dislikes me because of my photo.
Tomorrow is her birthday. I'm planning to send her an MMS greeting message, but should I call her tonight?
I sent her the MMS message. She replied and thanked it, she said that it's so cute. :)
We talked tonight and she was cheerful again. Looks like she doesn't want to turn me down.
She said she may have time on sunday so we can meet. Boy, I just can't wait...
So like, did you take the advice from this thread?
Thank you guys, I think I'm on the right track. She didn't take any remarks at my photo.
I had a long day at work today, I didn't have much time to call her. I came home late and I was tired. But she sent me a message just to say "sweet dreams" :) Looks like she's interested in me too.
Oh no! I called her again and talked about various things, but there's something that concerns me: she said something like "I don't have a boyfriend for more than a year now and I don't see much chances to get one"
Does this mean that I'm in her "friend only" zone and she'll never treat me as a possible boyfriend? :( I hope not!
HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Why else do you think she told you she's single!!!!! This only means she has interest in you! When someone tells you their single and you happen to get along with that person, she basically is trying to get you to ask her out! Sooo Dumb!
If any girl ever said that to me and I liked her, I would ask her out on the spot, friend zone be damned.
Well, she is history. :(
We met on saturday. I went to her apartment. I helped with her computer, then we watched a movie together. Everything seemed fine.
Then, she didn't answer my calls. I tried to call her several times, I sent an SMS, got no reply.
Then, I came home today and saw her on MSN. I ashed her "what's this all about" She just thorow me "you're not my type".
They will rarely ever tell you what exactly you did wrong. Essentialy they figure that if you can't figure it out, you don't deserve anyone. That is what I have observed.
Oh well.......some girls, they trick you, some just use you, and some do it for fun. I know how it feels........But what if the whole thing was just a test? I've seen girls talk and they keep chatting about what to do when they meet a guy and all.
so what, you want her to lie? you want this chick to keep stringing you along so you can run your phone bill up, thinking you've got a chance when you don't? don't be such a pussy. take the pain, say "fuckit" and move on.
She was harsh, but at least she made it clear before she totally used you.
>>she said "you didn't notice that I was tired, even if I yawned so much"
No, I just wanted her to tell the truth right on the spot! If I'm not her type, then it's ok, but she should have told me after the date or later when I called her.
Instead of this, she didn't want to answer the calls and I needed to MSN her to get the answer out of her. I'm fed up with this kind of attitude...
Ouch. Pretty fucked up story. In my opinion the only way to really meet girls is face to face so both of you know what's poppin. Talking to girls online is fine if you've hung out with them in real life a bit, but if you're just talking online and haven't met then everything said is really shit until you do, because people are not the same in real life. This goes for the phone as well. This is just my opinion and probably off topic but I don't care.
Did you ever think it doesn't have to do with your looks? It's easy to blame her and call her shallow, but the truth is ugly people hook up all the time. You can't change your face, but you can change your attitude.
When I went out with a guy (yes I am a girl yeah yeah) he spent the whole time making really, REALLY stupid jokes and putting his arms all over me. Then he says I don't like him because of his looks (he looks fine) or his nerdy hobbies (I am more of a nerd then him). The real reason is our personalities didn't mesh at all.
Most likely you are not physically appealing to her. If that is what you think is what is wrong with you, then it is most likely. Girls/women won't tell that truth to you. But my impression on this, is that you don't look the type she wants of a guy.