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Girlfriend is wanting secrecy... (23)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-09 04:22 ID:2jt66mwG

I've just started going out with this girl. I really like her, but one thing bugs me... she avoids contact with me when around some of her friends, whom I'm not incredibly acquainted with.

I think I have it figured out: one guy in specific likes her, and she doesn't want him to find out about us so he isn't hurt or something. What should I do though? I feel for this guy, but at the same time I can't avoid telling others about our relationship -- or at least, its existence.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-09 04:24 ID:ZHlmilcJ

Dude, she's fucking him behind your back. Beat the guy up and show him she is yours.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-09 05:01 ID:z8LCs6xE

>>2
Actually I think he's gay. Maybe not though.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-09 08:26 ID:38KODpRK

She could be trying to increase her available range of choices. She might not want to show you to him so she can still keep him open as an option.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-09 22:04 ID:z8LCs6xE

>>4
Yeah, I'm aware of that possibility too. In that case, should I make it apparent that I want her and am not willing to give her up?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-09 22:29 ID:3p2+PXyb

uh...talk to her.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 01:14 ID:Heaven

>I think I have it figured out: one guy in specific likes her, and she doesn't want him to find out about us so he isn't hurt or something.
>Actually I think he's gay. Maybe not though.
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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 03:33 ID:z8LCs6xE

>>7
My first impression was that he is, but I'm probably wrong. It's her perspective that matters anyways, not mine.

9 Name: Sora : 2006-09-10 04:30 ID:2aUT8k+r

Make her choose, this is a risky situation. If you don't do something about this you might just get hurt in the end. She's like playing 2nd fiddle here.. nobody can have the best of both man. It's like unfaithfulness in the making. Either you stop it now or bail out. What are you her secret boyfriend? that's fucking insane man.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 06:59 ID:ug65BeKq

Ask her "whats the f'n deal?"

Well, maybe not that forwardly, but the only way you'll know for sure is by asking her.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 07:07 ID:z8LCs6xE

>>9,10

I am going to follow your advice. I haven't been in many successful relationships, but even I know something's strange here.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 07:14 ID:hJwiHb2J

Wait, how did you find out he likes her?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 07:45 ID:TCz2PeRe

Morgan: No one can know about us. If anyone asks, I'll deny it.
Fry: Just like every other girl I've dated.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 08:17 ID:Heaven

Dump the bitch.

If she's hiding crap like that, she must not really like you. Heh, "increase her available range of choices"... while she's going out with someone?

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 08:58 ID:z8LCs6xE

>>12
She told me. We weren't going out at that time, so going further wasn't relevant.

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16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 19:22 ID:Q0Jr98Wz

>>15

>I go to 4-ch, I have no other avenue of getting laid.
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17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 20:59 ID:Heaven

>>14

Are you the Hotaru guy? Last I heard, you were turning religious.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 02:17 ID:Heaven

>>17
Hotaru guy? Pretty sure I'm not.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 07:22 ID:z8LCs6xE

Well, I stuck it to her, in short. She tried to dodge my questions and gave me vague answers. I think I'm seeing the beginning of the end for this one.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 21:57 ID:9tEaoCxc

>>17 I've always wondered. Was the Hotaru that guy talking abou, Hotaru from Sailormoon?

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 22:43 ID:8K4M8SKa

>>17
the hotaru guy would never say that women love him.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-14 18:53 ID:OCX1HWqd

I think you should find the guy and talk to him

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-14 19:43 ID:Nl30RqZI

>>21

I think it's the same troll.