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What is the difference between love and obsession? (13)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-20 00:53 ID:rlr64iet

Any idea?

2 Name: Mireille guy !2dC8hbcvNA : 2006-09-20 02:34 ID:ii7dyyW3

Obsession is a state of trance you hypnotize yourself into, also known as crush.
Love is a deliberate act of self-sacrifice, also known to man as "why the heck did I marry".

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-20 02:49 ID:Heaven

Love: 1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates> b : an assurance of love

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4 Name: Mireille guy !2dC8hbcvNA : 2006-09-20 03:38 ID:Heaven

I believe the definition from the dictionary is good, but not as well understood as mine. ;-P Love is controllable, deliberate, and involves self-sacrifice. The Book of Philippians (Holy Bible) has a good definition of love as well.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-20 03:58 ID:Heaven

lol, I dunno what zoophilia is but I think obsession is more superficial. Haha. I like to use this question:

If you get a call from GirlA at 3am asking you to pick her up 'cause she's stuck without a ride in a city 12 hours (driving) away. Would you pick her up?

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6 Name: !2dC8hbcvNA : 2006-09-20 04:02 ID:Heaven

Good insight.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-21 01:40 ID:rlr64iet

>>5 Of course I'd pick her up at 3am and take a bullet for her.

But does that really make it love? Wouldn't an obsessed person do the same thing? I don't think obsession has to be superficial.

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8 Name: Mireille guy !2dC8hbcvNA : 2006-09-23 19:23 ID:ii7dyyW3

That's where you're wrong. It's always deliberate. When you develop a crush, you choose to enter that state of trance, as much as you could choose not to. (See my post in how to destroy crushes.) You know, attraction happens always, but love doesn't. I've experienced "love at first sight", and let me share that it's amazing dating someone for whom you have falled for at first sight. But dating her and going out with her is something I CHOSE to do. Wooing her and seducing her is something I CHOSE to do. Love begins when you deliberately put her above yourself and sacrifice time, effort and tears for her. Obsession on the other hand is not controllable but rather, you are controlled by it.

9 Name: Troll!!6MhJ5+eg : 2006-09-24 00:44 ID:Heaven

I agree with Mireille guy, love is always deliberate and it is controllable. :) The best definition though is: it is self-defined, it depends on how one defines it themselves, it molds on what and how your perspectives are.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-24 05:09 ID:Heaven

I somewhat agree with the second part of your post (you troll!) but not the part about agreing with Mireille. Some people might not even consider attempting to control a crush (or might not be able to), so unless they come up with that idea, they wouldn't have any control over it.

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11 Name: Mireille guy !2dC8hbcvNA : 2006-09-24 08:00 ID:ii7dyyW3

You truth distorters! ;D
I have some experience, but I don't claim to have the truth so I respect your valid opinion.
And I taught you how to destroy a crush for what?! :P

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-24 12:42 ID:7b6zcXos

With Obsession, you'll find that its hard to deny your feelings for the person you're obsessed with. You will tell yourself "of course i love her/him" and you won't consider that you might not.

With Love, you can deny that you love her/him, but then wait a little bit, interact with that person again, and you'll find out that you really do love them very much and your denial was a false assumption.

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-25 02:58 ID:Heaven

lol SA strikes again.