Ok, I need some experienced advice on what to do in my situation. I've never been in a serious relationship before. I'm 21, male, in college.
Girl 1: 17. I met her at a camp in kansas, but she lives maybe 800 miles away (Virginia). She one of 2 girls (inclusive) I've felt a close kinship towards. She is just about perfect. Great personality, great looks. We are psudo-dating now over the internet, but it's not going so well, we're finding it hard to get anything serious going. As it is going now, I'll only see her once or twice a year. I would fit perfectly in a relationship with this girl. She may have feelings for me, or may only respect and like me(friend version), I don't know.
I've got some experience here. To be honest, a ton.
Girl 2 is the obvious choice here. Don't delve into it too much, nor try to measure rational with emotional. I've done that already for you.
Let me give you a quick explanation of what will and should happen for your best. I will be completely honest with what you have to do. Tell her you want to get very close to her and you'd like to clear your mind of unnecessary worries. Do not mention Girl 1 unless, 1: she's so insistent she will close your relationship if you don't talk about it; and 2: you are absolutely sure this will not affect your relationship negatively. You will get to know every aspect of girl 2, while keeping an open relationship with Girl 1. By open, it means getting enough friendship going on and a good relationship to be able to talk to each other about your private lives. You will be clear to her about both of you giving up any romantic relationship with each other and stick to a platonic love. (There are many good reasons to avoid romantic relationships with her. I'm sure you can come up with some to tell her. Be creative... say something like, "You're young, I won't stop you from living life." or "I don't want to compromise your heart." or "The world is big, you may find other things and people to live for.") You will not disclose any facts about your flourishing relationsihp with Girl 2 until it's absolutely safe to do so. (I would say 2 months maybe.)
The goal with that reply is to keep BOTH of your relationships healthy. It's possible, believe me. But it takes a big heart, a lot of discipline, and clarity of mind to be able to balance such relationships out. And by big heart I don't mean being able to love both, but to be able to absorb all emotions and keep them covered, small, and unnoticed. It means to not overflow with emotions or be overthrown by emotions (beware of becoming emotionally unstable, I believe they are called emo people, am I right?).