Ok, so I'm a college student, and I've been dating someone for quite a while now. Our relationship has been wonderful, and we're both very happy with each other.
Now, sometimes when we're alone together, our kissing and hugging goes a little farther, and we move to things like some playful touching and things like that. No undressing really, we aren't having sex (we're both still virgins). But sometimes it seems like we get caught up in the moment a lot, and maybe push the boundaries a little bit. It doesn't hurt our relationship really, but we talk afterwards about how "That might have been a bit much." or things like that.
YOU AND ME, BABY WE, ARE NOTHING BUT MAMMALS
SO LET'S DO IT LIKE THEY DO IT ON DISCOVERY CHANNEL
just ask her. be open about it and she will give you a straight answer.
You're a bit neurotic. You should get that checked.
If that's the least of your troubles, you have nothing to worry about.
Don't hesitate! If you want something more intimate just go ahead! If you don't, she'll eventually think that you have no balls and dump you.
Believe me, I had this kind of situation before. Me and my gf were still virgins. We enjoyed kissing and hugging and I wanted something more but I didn't want to scare her or as you said "change the comfortable situation that the relationship is in" so I only moved forward very slowly.
Wow the advice in here sucks.
You need to set the boundaries in your relationship. Getting caught up in the feelings of arousal WILL take your further than you want to go. Dont get caught in that trap. Keep your virginity and give it to someone who will respect you in the morning, who loves you for who you are and promises to be with you for the rest of your life.
seems problem currently not with her, but you. Value of virginity... you decide how much. Perhaps you feel some spiritual level about great intimacy? Explore your feelings (FO think it silly to think sex as holy,) appreciate open communication (agree on that part with >>9. Honest, but not necessarily blunt cuz you are gentleman, no?)