I am a shy, quiet type of girl...not awkward or ugly, but a bit meek. My friend is loud and almost obnoxious and gets all of the attention. Men flock to her, and she is not even that pretty! Do men really prefer that type of girl? Must I quit being feminine and start acting like "one of the guys" to find a man?
My girlfriend is a small and normally quiet kind of girl. She'll smile at someone faster than she'll say "HEY YO HOW'S IT GOING?!?!" I like that a lot. Of course, she's less shy around me now, but I still see her as that type of girl. I find it quite cute!
It depends how well I know you. But I usually go for the quiet girls because I'm a laid back guy and I don't a girl who is going to get me in trouble. Plus your friend is probably a flirt and I don't want to compete.
>Men flock to her, and she is not even that pretty!
Maybe she is, to men.
They used to say that you should choose a partner who's the opposite of your temperament. From my experiences I must say they're right. If you are an introvert personality, then you should choose a partner who's extrovert.
I'm a quiet type of guy myself and I had a shy and quiet girlfriend. We were hanging out and stuff but never knew what the other wanted. Two quiet personalities doesn't go along well. Neither party can speak out and it ruins the relationship.
I guess I am a quiet girl and I get told that I'm cute alot. But most of my guy friends tend to see me more as a little sister rather than a potential girlfriend. So OP, I know where you're coming from, I have an extremely airheaded, ditzy, loud but gorgeous best friend and all the guys have fallen for her at some point.
I feel that even though extrovert-introvert relationships probably work out better than extrovert-extrovert or introvert-introvert relationships, people are attracted to similar personality types. If you think about it, a guy that's extroverted and goes partying all the time would look at a girl that doesn't say too much and think that they wouldn't have that much in common.
Thank you, someone with taste Cough*brains*Cough. I'm the same way, I hate the obnoxious type. Timid is the best. Yep.
hey , my closest friend in highschool was this very loud and popular guy, he had the looks, girls all over him, and actualyl, he was a really great person ( other wise, i wouldn't be his friend, duh ) , and you had me on the other hand, who nobody knew his name, but he would hand around the the guy most of the time.
I wish I had a girl like you. Personally I hate loud girls they just want to make up for the fact that they do not have any natural beauty so that's the only way they could attract men. (most of the time) ....Just be yourself...... ^__^
Thank you for the replies!
I think that part of the problem is that people assume that quiet people are empty or we are mistaken for being snobby. It seems men mistake me for being empty more often than rude. I am not boring or dull, I would just rather listen.
>I think that part of the problem is that people assume that quiet people are empty or we are mistaken for being snobby. It seems men mistake me for being empty more often than rude.
Yesh, I was going to say the same thing. Personally, people seem to think the same of me, and I'm male. :p
I can be a 'loud' girl, and this post seems to be slagging us off somewhat. its fine if you prefere quiet girls, but i am not loud to attract men. I am funny, bubbly, outgoing, confident and you guys just call me LOUD. i dont think thats right. also there are varying degrees of loudness and quietness and the individual will act differently in different circumstances. just try GETTING TO KNOW the person for heavens sake!!! for people who view the world as judging you you appear to be very judgmental of MY type. do you think thats fair?
Same for me. Girls only seem to see my face and turn me down immediately. They don't want to get to know me.
I'm quiet and timid, maybe I'm not too good-looking, but I have a heart and I could give so much. But my treasures are inside and it looks like nobody's interested in them...
"The squeaky wheel gets the grease."
The question is if you leave an impression that it's possible to get anywhere with you. I'm not especially for obnoxiously loud girls although I've met some nice ones.
It's more like, okay, so you're shy. Is it because you're not experienced, don't know what to say or do? No problem. Is it because you shun guys and any relationship and talking to you is hopeless?
Wish girls like you would just come out of the shadows so we could all actually meet girl's we can relate to
That is reality for you and all of us who aren't good looking. The majority of girls/women go for people who looks decent to them. It doesn't matter how good you are or your heart is pure gold, what really matters is your appearance.
Yeah but you can somewhat balance the bad looks with stylish clothing and such.
what to say?
>>19 is kinda wrong, 'cause I've not been pretty over the years, but I've been with many girls in those years. Why? My girls think I'm a nice guy, that's why. At least here, girls find boys attractive, not for their appearance(at least not that much), but for their hearts too. Doesn't matter you be the gorgeous best looking man... and an asshole. You'll get lots of girls, sure, but will end up being alone, or changing your ways, trying to be more nice, less asshole.
>> At least here, girls find boys attractive, not for their appearance(at least not that much), but for their hearts too.
Where do you live, pal? I'm gonna move there!
Yea. Girls want the guy with the heart of gold, but they only give a chance to guys with good looks/good style/wealth/etc (depends on the girl).
Where do quiet girls of this sort hang out? On random encounters in places like bookstores and cafes, I never seem to run into this kind of girl.
Shit, I just said "random encounter" in relation to this... that's pretty sad.
Read my question again but if you could, remove the RPG references from it. Thanks.