Ok, before I get on with the story, I need to ask that anyone reading this keep an open mind, because my problem is centered around soul mates, and past lives, and not everybody believes that these things exist.
Anyway, to the problem:
>I have been told that I am [...]
Don't believe everything that's told to you...
There is no such thing as a "past life". I feel the same way sometimes when I'm lonely, that there's someone out there who is the 100% perfect girl for me and I need to find her, but it's a delusion. This is a psychological trap which you will never be able to break out of if you believe that. If you're constantly worrying whether someone is "the" right guy for you, you will never meet the right guy. Rid yourself of your excess baggage and look for someone new.
sigh Ok, I did not come here for critcisms on my personal beliefs. Past life was not the point of my question.
There is indeed just one perfect guy for us all...
Unfortunately it's a bit hard to share him between all of us
If he is your soul mate, you will find him; worrying about it just throws a wrench in the whole thing. ;) Don't doubt your inner feeling. Go with the flow. It is my personal opinion, however, that you shouldn't avoid dating altogether - it's a great way to get to know who people really are! Think about what I've said, but don't dwell on it - I'm trying to help you progress!
God, I'm male and I'm 75% sure my soulmate is a guy. That's even more screwed up than yours!
Yeah. A realistic advice would be to get over your naiive belief in a soulmate.
Unrealistically, if you're destined to be together, then you shouldn't worry. Things will work out. Just sit back and let fate work things.
>> I want to find my soul mate. No one else will do.
LOL This kind of attitude leads to the desperate, lonely and depressed life that a lot of people has.
I just don't understand these girls... They just dump ALL guys, no matter how good they are because they're not her "soul mates". They even don't care if they get along very well...
>> This whole soul mate stuff is only another reason for women to dump men.
I don't think that's necessarily true. Most people (girls, in your case) believe that a soulmate is someone that completely get along well and everything just clicks and most importantly, they care for each other deeply.
Right so, lets think about this shall we?
Your soulmate is one of sveral billion. In the past You claim to have met them. Even if it's a long time in the past, they were still 1 out of many millions, unless we are talking about waaaaaaay back when true love was a guy hitting the girl over the head with a big stick (Isn't it still?) Anyway this leads me to conclude: You have already met your soulmate you lucky bitch, be happy. How many of us out here do you think never will in this or any other fuggin' life. This is the true argument against overpopulation. Heh, just be happy you met them the once, or if you want to do something, try saving the planet from human overexploitation so that you have a chance of meeting them in a later life.
I'll try and keep an open mind. Your beliefs center around the idea that you have 1 person among all people in the world that you're compatible with. If he is truly your soulmate he will feel the same way. Since you believe in reincarnation I assume you also believe in a higher power or divine authority. I doubt that your creator intends you to be completely miserable for the rest of your existence. A creator will naturally love their creation or they would never bother creating. Have faith that your creator has put you in a position where you will meet your divine soul mate. Try to find hope and be happy.
If my creator didn't want me to be miserable why the hell am I posting here on a friday night?
my soulmate appears to be a dog.. sux even more than >>7..
My soulmate is 2 years old. So I'll have to wait another 14 years until I can fuck her, and by then I'll be a dirty, 40 year old man.
My soulmate is an ant... we'll never get to have relations. :(
squish it so it can come back in a human form sooner
my advise is: get a grip of reality
Then again, what would you do if a beauful girl comes up to you and says, "You.. umm. I think you're my soulmate from a past life. In fact, I'm certain about it, so.... lets consummate our love, now.. please?"
Let's see you say: "get a grip of reality, bitch"
Of course he only said that because he isn't directly affected by her. :p
Seriously, if this is what you are worrying about when going into relationships, I don't see how it can work out. Good relationships are hard, and don't happen by accident. You get a long way there by finding someone similar, but you still have to learn a heck of a lot about them. There is no magic.
>>1 I kind of understand your feeling (and I was also told I'm an old soul too, considering how the person who kind of told me that she 'saw' that my pool of knowledge seems deep, and you dont get this in just a few reincarnations). If what you say is true, and I'm not discarding the possibility of it, that guy from the distant past have become your ideal partner. While in the book of fates you were given the chance to meet and be with him. Things have changed and you are no longer to meet this person. And of course we don't know how long since you met this guy in one of your past life. You could have many reincarnations already. If so then perhaps in all of them you have done much the same as you have done now in searching for The Relationship. I think maybe now is a way fo telling you to let this soulmate go and attempt to find a new person.
OP.....I say keep at it! You might sound like an idiot overreacting now but then you'll never what'll happen if you don't search for your soulmate. Life's about taking chances, I myself have done many things in my life I regret but I gained something in return, experience and learned more about myself than I did before. So I say to you OP, go where you please to go. Don't let anything stop you from achieving your goal of true love!