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Am I hopeless? (13)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-20 23:48 ID:uMkIHgW2

I realized a few days ago that I don't think I will ever be able to find a girl I actually like and be with her. I am an extremely shy person so for the most part I will never approach girls myself. So instead I basically rely on girls to come to me, which surprisingly does happen; however, it seems to be that the girls who ARE interested in me and approach me never have anything in common with me. I quickly get bored of them and sadly have to cut off whatever we have going (which I hate because I am overly shy). In an ideal girl she would be smart, shy and we would have some of the same interests (internet, philosophy etc.). But I can't seem to find a girl like this at all. And how would I ever be able to even find out that a girl is like this? I can barely approach girls in the first place. It's not even like there's someone at my school or something that I can approach, I have already ruled them all out for being too closed minded (I live in the south currently). I am clueless as to what to do from here. Maybe I am thinking about things too much as I am only sixteen but I am actually longing for some sort of female companionship. I am basically lost at this point and I have no clue what to do. Please help me! Thank you!

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 00:01 ID:3VdjkkwT

I see a little contradiction here. You said you are shy and are relying on girls approaching you. But you want a shy girl. A shy girl will never approach you. So either have to change your preferences for a girl or go out and find the girl. But you are 16 you have nothing really to complain about. When you are 40 and still single then you should start worrying.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 01:24 ID:uMkIHgW2

>>2
Yes I am aware of this contradiction and that's part of the reason why things are almost made for disaster. It's not that I only like shy girls or anything but I just seem to have a natural tendency to like other shy people. Maybe it has to do with being introverted.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 01:58 ID:10l454LA

Oh my god. What a lame ass. Seriously.

Here's a little lesson on women: They want your money. They want your hidden treasure. They are leeches and succubi.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 02:23 ID:uMkIHgW2

>>4
I don't want a Love Hina girl at all. You completely miss the point. As much as "omg gettin laid" or "omg i gotsa getta super hawt gf" might be your priority, it is not mine at all. I simply want an intelligent girl who I can ACTUALLY converse with in a thoughtful discussion every so often. I don't mean close-minded as in hating blacks and jews. I mean close-minded as in highly religious and Christian. But you can make as many assumptions as you would like about me over the internet and I am fine with this.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 02:30 ID:3VdjkkwT

You are not hopeless, just emo.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 05:14 ID:7dkdL40d

>>5

What's wrong with being Christian? EVERYBODY needs Jesus, because Jesus loves you and everyone else thinks you are an asshole. But the point is that at least Jesus loves you.

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 05:30 ID:48Qg2Szi

>>4

No one needs you here. All you've done is belittle someone else on the internet by making baseless assumptions of someone else.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 05:39 ID:lta60V0j

>>1
Hey, your shy dreamgirl will never approach you. Also, two shy people doesn't go along well. Trust me, I had a shy girlfriend and the relationship was anything but perfect...
If you're approached by extrovert girls, you should consider yourself lucky and choose one of them.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 08:16 ID:5z/x8Vbj

if you're approached by girls at all you should consider yourself lucky

11 Name: The Scientist : 2006-11-21 10:01 ID:Mrg9t4u9

"I realized a few days ago that I don't think I will ever be able to find a girl I actually like and be with her."

If that is what you believe, then that shall be your fate.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-21 17:07 ID:uMkIHgW2

>>11
I will try to work up the courage to approach girls but I am very introverted in nature is what seems to be my main issue. And I'm not sure if being introverted is something that can really be overcome. But I think you are right. For the individual circumstance of atleast getting to approach them I should try and overcome it. Thanks!

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-25 06:02 ID:Heaven

>>4 has it right but was a bit sharp about it.

>>11 is also right, butis nicer.

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