Problem mentioned above. I never really thought I'd have a crush on teacher. Had some nice and good-looking female teachers before, but this one's special. I just can't get her out of my head, it's becoming quite frustrating as I don't know what should I do.
So basically I'm studying in high school and met this teacher like three years ago when school began. It was nothing then, just thought that something to "look at" when the classes are boring. First year passed. Then at the beginning of the second year, I dunno what struck me, but I'd say that I got a little bit "closer" with her. I mean like just talking in class (and greeting in corridors, looking deep into eyes, blah blah...), but it just felt somehow different. We get along well. I started to really work hard with the subject she's teaching, and actually got my grades up. It took many sleepless night to finish many projects, as I made everything as fine as I could. It's just great feeling when she says that whatever I produce is great and nice to read and all. Of course that's just the way teachers should encourage their students, but you get the point.
that IS a situation..
most of the time girls don't like guys younger than them...
sorry.. that is a fact.. just ask a female friend of yours.
You must tell her. You will always regret it if you do not. Confess to her now, as soon as you can. She will probably be surprised, but it may be a pleasant one!
You must tell her, for her sake and yours!
Yeah, ask her. I know it can be a hard thing to do, but you never get anything in life without taking chances. Nothing really bad can happen anyway. Getting turned down might be a blow to your dignity, but there's not much in life that doesn't put your dignity at risk.
OP let me ask you this question, how many girls do you have as friends?
Now I am thinking that she is the only real female to ever show interest in you. She is nice and supportive of you and those are fine qualities of a woman. But she is also a teacher and that is her job. She is suppose to support your efforts to learn, that is her job. You are just not reading the situation right and her beauty is not helping. Hey, if she was just plain ugly I doubt we will be talking about it, and don't lie to me and say you will love her no matter how she looks. >>2->>4 They really don't know what they are talking about. Why step into a fire if you know you are going to get burned? You know what the outcome will be if you ask her out and it will NOT be in your favor. She goes to work with a certain professionalism that will not allow her to get involve romantically with a student or even an ex-student. I don't want to burst your bubble but you just have to live in reality. Try asking a girl from your grade out and see how it goes. Learn how to date before you get too old.
Dating someone from your agegroup IS the better option.
"To tell the truth, if I was given a chance to fuck her, or take her out to dinner and whatever romantic, I'd choose the latter. Maybe I'm weird, and that's why it feels like I'm never accepted by anyone."
Alright, maybe some of the other people on here are sadistic, but I am not. Here is my advice.
FORGET ABOUT THIS. Looking through your post, I've noticed that for the most part, you have answered your own questions about the subject, and are looking for confirmation.
"OP let me ask you this question, how many girls do you have as friends?"
To tell the truth, not many. And those who are, are really just friends, nothing else.
If you say ANYTHING to her, it must wait until after you graduate or until after you turn 18, whichever comes LAST. Remember all those stories of female teachers being fired (and in some cases labeled as a sexual predator for the rest of their lives) because they had a relationship with a student?
I'm turning 19 in march, so not worries about that :)
And I'll be graduating next summer (or maybe next fall, as I'm having problems with few courses). I would not do anything to harm her. Which leads back to the point about the ways this whole thing could affect both of us. Such a squirrel wheel...
It doesn't matter if you're going to be 19. In fact, at least in the United States, you're considered "legal" in most states at 17. You're, first of all, putting this woman's career and lifestyle in danger. Is she married? Does she have a boyfriend? What would her family think? You seem to have little concern for her wellbeing and little knowledge of her personal situation.
You're generalizing, and those are different situations.
Yeah, i thought you said it pretty well, too, but thought I should add in some more to drive it home. Halfway through writing it I was like, "I now this kid's not stupid, but why is this so difficult to realise?" We've said all that really needs to be said, I think.
Seconded. Trainwreck syndrome? For sure.
I know I should stop this discussion to this, but why are you drawing pedophilia in it? It has nothing to do with this when it's about two adults (legally, guess I'm not mentally adult...).
If she were a kindergarten teacher then yes, I think it would be significantly more acceptable. ...Then again, people COULD suspect that if she dated a teenager, she also could be interested in younger children, once again putting her job at risk. If you were to date a teacher at a school you were attending, not only would it put her at peril for having relations with a student, but it would also put into question the credibility of the school and her grading, hitting her from both directions.
sorry I think you were just misunderstanding what I said. I mentioned pedo because that's what people would assume. you may be legal or close to being a legal adult, but you're not mentally, and outsiders would jump to the "pedo" conclusion.
My teacher got married to one of his ex-students, though this was like 40 years ago... I can only assume they were dating during the time where the girl was a student.
wow i just found this randomly but i'm in a situation not very much different from yours (the only major difference is that my teacher is a guy hahah) but i'm 17 and he's 37 so yeah, big age difference. i think he has taken a slight interest in me (even thought he's married) just by the ways he acts and things he does for me but i know it would never work. i've thought of confessing, but since he's married and all, it wouldn't benefit either of us and practically no good could come out of it. if your teacher isn't married and you believe she does have feelings for you, i would encourage you to confess. but maybe you should wait until you graduate so it won't make things awkward during the school year in case she happens to reject you. good luck!! :)
He just wants to fuck you. No seriously, he probably never has sex with his wife anymore so he wants to move on to a nice teenage girl. One of my high school teachers would always have sex with one of the female students every year. I wouldn't imagine he is any different. He is just a sick old man who wants to get his.
OP here. I have not done anything to direction or other, just noticed that there really is someone with same kind of situation. But sadly I agree with >>22 about Brittany and her teacher. Male in his 40's might be more into just sex than any relationship. Not denying the fact that same could as well go with older women, but I guess it's more common with men to want someone younger than them (sex or otherwise). And his marriage is not going to make the thing easier (oh well, here I'm writing like the exact opposite of my first message situation :) ). Not that there's not exceptions, maybe I'm just stereotyping too much.
First of all any 'plan' that is created for the pusuit of a girl will fail. Second of all, why are you still trying? I thought we told you to give up. But hey if you want to, go ahead, I could use a good chuckle.
I used to be a teacher, and i freely admit, given the chance, I would have done something ethically and morally reprehensible.
Men will be men!
My dad used to have a crush on his art teacher.
he doesn't act like he wants sex, i don't know. i'm probably just another naive teenage girl who thinks he has actually taken an interest in "me" and just doesn't like me because i'm young, what i look like, etc. it sucks 'cause i really like him and i've done everything i can to make myself disklike him but it doesn't work. my sister likes him too which is really weird
Charlie Chaplin, Errol Flynn, Howard Hughs, and Roman Polansky are all famous for, besides being in the film business, being in relationships with younger people.
Juan Peron, ex-President of Argentina, also had relations with underage people after his famous wife (Eva-remember the movie starring Madonna)died.
They were not teachers. The relationship between a teacher and student is far different between an older man and young girl.
I agree with
However, there have been a number of cases concerning female teachers with male students.
I beleive the name of the teacher that had a baby to a student was either Rhianna Ellis or, more likely Mary K. Letourneau.
"In 1996 the married elementary-school teacher and mother of four, 34, conceived a child with her former student, Vili Fualaau, then 13. Her marriage ended, and she was sentenced to 7 1/2 years in prison for child rape; a sympathetic judge knocked down the penalty to six months. Once released, she resumed the affair, got pregnant again and was returned to prison to serve the remainder of her 7 1/2 years. Released in 2004, she picked up where she left off with Fualaau, by then 21. Less than a year later, with their two young daughters as flower girls, the unlikely couple exchanged wedding vows in a lavish ceremony at a Washington State winery."
I can't believe you are trying to endorse this. You know, I just give up.
And it was Mary K. Letourneau that got married to her student.
Who are we to infringe of two potential lovebirds possible happiness?
Nos >>1 must be given as much infomation so as they can make a fully informed decision. What comes from their decision/actions are their business, not ours, so i figure.
Sorry, "Who are we to infringe on two potential lovebirds..." I meant to say.
The teacher is UNINTERESTED! We're not condemning their established, functional romance! The guy is pining after a woman that has not shown any more attachment to him than a fairly average teacher-student relationship; academic and encouraging.
Point taken, however, where would we be if we never tried to reel our BF/GF in? We'd probably be single.
Yeah. But, as we've all said in this thread, being loving and compassionate means NOT PUTTING THE OBJECT OF OUR AFFECTION'S career/livelihood at risk. Have an ounce of consideration.
The woman ain't interested. Give up. You're a kid that was unfocused in high school. Just because she saw some potential in you and encouraged to you to do your best doesn't mean she has some raging, wild passion for your cock. Get over it.
>where would we be if we never tried to reel our BF/GF in?
you need to first need to hook them before you can reel them in. obviously it is nearly impossible to hook a teacher.
i was a nova teacher and wish students hit on me. they were really shy about anything personal and we were told not to try and have personal relationships with students or we'd be fired. bah.
I'd choose the latter
this part i dont understand. if i was u, id want to grab her tits and swing them hard even though while we r seeing beautiful stars and saying something very romantic
if you want to confess better to do it outside the school because it would be really awkward to confess in school. Meet her casually for something now that it's the holidays that is if you really want to push through with this.
I'd simply start by asking what she does in her spare time; what r her hobbies; basically find out if she's single, happily married etc.
If u never try, u may regret it for the rest of ur life. U may end up asking yourself in 20 yrs from now, "Would my life be happier if only i got with Miss so-and-so.
well before making confession to her, it might be better if u ask her out in the way that she might take it as a joke. if s
he takes it very seriously and rejects u, then u say"come on, i
was just joking haha", and if she accepts ur offer, u r lucky.
I used to like my teacher too. I thought I was the only one. Nice to know I'm not.
Yeah, do that. She's most likely older than you, but start a friendship with her. :3
This is not he is asking a girl out from his class, he is talking about his teacher. You are trying to generalize this situation. Her job is to motivate kids into learning and by being nice to them helps them to learn by golly she will do it. OP just mistook her kindness as legimate feelings toward him. So instead of focusing on how to ask out his teacher, he should work on making female friends so he can ask out a girl his age.
I don't understand how the OP's teacher is just being friendly and "kind" and how Brittany's teacher just wants to "fuck her." At least from what I got from both posts, aren't the teachers acting somewhat the same? The teachers are both obviously friendly with both of the students but I don't think there is a need to stereotype someone just because he is a guy.
slap her face with ur cock
what an interesting situation you've gotten yourself in to.
how did it go?
be careful about things in school but tell her to meet you somewhere and tell her after school hours or you could try easing in to it seeing if she wants to get a bite to eat or something
Just go for it man. Forget what these people are saying. Ok there is an age difference AND the teacher student thing HOWEVER he is about to graduate. There is a teacher at my school who was asked (I live in the south at a private Christian school so I think this would be the best example) by a student on a date in his senior year and they actually went out for a bit after he graduated (she was about 28-29 I believe). People didn't really care about it and no one holds it against her or anything even though it's known. This is a PRIVATE CHRISTIAN SCHOOL where the administration would pretty much kick a teacher out for anything they found "inappropriate" so I think you are safe. I really wouldn't worry about it just go for it. Worst case it doesnt' work out and you are out of school forever in a few months, nothing to worry about.
go for it before you lose it, the rest depends on the say of ur teacher
i agree with >>56. u cant expect a girl to knock on ur door and ask u "do u wanna fuck me?" anway.
lol jesus what the fuck is wrong with u man?
If u don't do anything about it, you'll regret it for the rest of ur life.
There is one thing which I recently realized - don't be afraid to do things because you are afraid of being embarrassed. There are things you can do only once, and never again. If you speak to her, and she rejects you, so what? You will probably never see her again, and sure you will feel stupid, but at least you know that you had the guts to do something like that, and you can go on with confidence that you can speak to any girl, or do anything without being afraid of getting embarrassed. Getting embarrassed isn't that bad; be confident of who you are. However if you don't, you probably will regret it for a long time; you will never know what could of happened. You only have one chance; you will never be in the same situation again, neither will you be the same age again. Go for it, obviously it will be really hard, but trust me, you really don't have much to lose. You get to live life only once, who cares if you make some mistakes, you can have at least have props for trying, which anyone can respect.
masturbate to her first, and see if u still like her or not.
Go for it dude, but maybe do so once you end high school [if you havent already - sorry if I'm being slow v_v].
If you fail, then it's just one on hundreds. If you succeed - Well done!
>>1 though I don't like the idea of a student dating a teacher I say the day AFTER your graduation buy a bouquet (somehow adding "of flowers sounds redundant) knock on her door and ask her for a date! By the time you graduate you're not her student anymore anyway so I don't see any conflict of interest.
Best bet imo. It may feel wierd but at least you'll know if it's actual liking or not.
god ur dumb...just bend her over the desk and take her to hell...don't forget to ask for 100%
lol what the hell? A TEACHER!!?!?!?!
wtf? are you dumb? just knock her out and fuck her
hey,we'r on the same boat man.!
well.u'r a female teacher,mine's a guy.
and he's bloody f*@$ing close to me?
what am i to do??
Do nothing, he's married. You don't want to be with someone who is unfaithful anyway, and if you do... um... well... you are having a moment of un-wisdom.
Front Row Guy, I read what you think of your teacher, and I pretty much have the same problem. I just have 38 days until the last day of school and I am in love with my teacher. But at my school we have "teams" for each grade to make less students for each class. The teacher I am in love with is on the "white team" and I am on the "red team". though I'm not sure exactly what she thinks of me. When ever she would walk into the class I'm in, she'd walk in and stop for a few seconds and look at me. We would look into each others eyes until one of us looked away. And I'm not just a student who thinks "Wow that teacher is hot! I sure just want to bang that chick!" or like Secret Admirer who said "wtf? are you dumb? just knock her out and fuck her". I actually want an actual relationship. And the chances of that are slim. Having a relationship with a teacher where I live is rare. in the last 10-20 years one student got with a teacher. In Kansas you will hear of student-teacher relationships a lot. In england you will also hear of a lot.
She's in her late 20's to early 30's, but I don't mind. A lot of people would think thats crazy. I don't see why...If she was 25-40 years older I might see something, but not too big.
sorry for adding things to my comment, but I'd like to have dinner, make out, cuddle, sex..., just be with her, and things like that.
don't feel too bad about this. you're not wierd. believe it or not last year (9th grade) i was in love with my english teacher. he's amazing. i don't want to get into detail but i didn't act on my feelings. i'm pretty much over it except when i see him in the halls or something. it's hard but if you REALLY want to tell her, wait til you graduate and then do it.
I love my friends teacher, and now people think I am insane.
(The kind of insane that I need to go to an insane asylum or get some therapy).
No one who likes their teacher/friends teacher wants to be crazy...like me...
wow you have really a difficult problem i can only wish you to go well....it's up to you to decide if you are going to confess or not..Sorry i haven't got that problems so i can't give you an appropriate advice but Goodluck :)
You hit puberty and are feeling affections for an older woman who you see everyday, it's normal I guess.
But definately not something you should act on.
HAHA DISREGARD THAT, I SUCK COCKS.
(And can't spell 'definitely'.)
I've seen that line somewhere on TV or a movie before.
I can't place it just yet, but sage is soooooo lame