So here is my story, its a bit lengthy, so kudos to anyone who reads the whole thing.
So, there is this guy that I really like, hell, I love him. We went to high school together, but we are 3 grades apart (he is 16 I just turned 18 2 weeks ago). We met in the hallway at school; we were both wearing black trenchcoats and I made a comment to the effect of "hey, nice coat"; we've been great friends ever since. He would often seek me out in the mornings before class, when I would sit in the cafeteria scowling because of how tired I was. He would always brighten up my face though, with his antics and conversation. He would also call me during the evenings, we would talk for hours about all kinds of things. The conversations I had with him started out as idle chit-chat, but quickly became serious and dee. We would spend time together outside of school, and we would tell eachother everything. when he found out that I was gay, it didnt phase him at all. Rather, it increased his desire to spend time with me. As a friend of mine put it, if I walked into a crowded room, he would notice and run towards me in mid-conversation, from the other side of the room. To be honest, I always thought he was cute and charming, but one I got to know him, I fell in love with him. Whenever we were alone, or out of the public eye, he would always open up to me -he showed me a side of himself that few ever really saw.
So, I told you that story ot tell you this story, and I apologize for the length:
Now I am going to college, 2 hours away from where I used to live. I talk to him mostly through letters. Over the summer, we got together and spent some quality time: particularily during a movie, wherein we held hand through most of it, and another time in my basement on the sofa, cuddling in front of an old 007. I went hme for Thanksgiving and stayed there an extra week, just so I cold see him. I didnt tell him I was going to be there so I could surprise him. I waited by his locker at the end of the day and he came walking down the hall. When he saw me his eyes lit up lke no other, and he bolted down the hall screaming my name and knocking over two football players in the process. He lept on me and gave me the most enthusiastic hug I've ever had in my life. After about 10-13 seconds, enough time for me to steal a quick kiss, he regained his composure. We spent 2 hours with eachother everyday after schol that week, he told his parents it was a thing for Creative Writing club.
I feel like such a terrible person for even considering giving up, but I jsut dont know anymore. So here's to years of soul-crushing melancholly I have to look forward to! Er, I mean life! And sorry this is such a long post, but I needed to get it out there and this seems like a good place to start to get some real advice.
What do you gain if you do run away?
Give me a one GOOD reason to run away and you may do so.
That's sad, but you can't change other people or force them to do anything - so just do the best you can, right?
Another thing is he sounds like he might be gay, but many from environments like that will try to deny it for awhile and run away...and I don't know if there's anything you can really do about it.
I'd wait it out. Still attempt friendly (not romantic) conversation with him. He's in a period of denial/self-loathing, so try not to aggrivate him. Chances are he'll come out of it after a while and learn to deal with being gay. Then you can swoop in and steal his heart or whatever.
He is younger than you, and he is surrounded by people who are homophobic. He is at a confusing time in his life, and he has many many influences and so much pressure. Give him time, let him figure himself out, and don't pressure him yourself. It'll work out how it's supposed to, so just hope for the best. One way or another, he'll probably be bi or gay, and once he truly finds himself(which may not be until he graduates and is away from the high pressured situations) is when you'll find out that it'll work out.
if I were in your situation, I would seek to distroy that evangelist guy that's influencing him so. What do your girlfriend's think about him?
damn straight. destroy him!
LoL, I'll be making a surprise visit this Friday. I only told one other person exactly when that might be, so I should be able to confront the son of a bitch. BTW: I'm told this evangelsist "totally hates [me]". But I think that it won't matter... I'm told I can be intimidating at times. >:3
Just let them fanatics be. It's not like you can make them refuse their beliefs just with a chat. Or with a fighting or torture.
I've yet to see a flaming homo beating someone up.
I'm happy for your ignorance about aids prevention. Remind me not to ever sleep with you, because you're statistically more likely to have it than a random homosexual. /golfclap
>>4 is absolutely right. if he means that much to you, you'll only regret it if you run away.
i wish your relationship the best.
keep your chin up, ignore those mean people! T_T
OP, good luck!
Ganbare Densha! ..Err, Homoqueerfag-Blackcoat! <3
It seems as this kid has charmed your heart and as sad as it may be it may be time [for at least now] to let him go. Allow him to have some contact with you, as in talk to people that know him, talk to people that are his friend (if he is social with people you can talk to) and have the same email address as you.
After having some time to think this whole thing over, I believe that this course of action is best. I know that he wont soon forget about me and sometime in the future, we can be together –if even only as friends.
I didn't know you were a gay guy until halfway into your second post. Thought you were a little minx lesbian that his parents were afraid of XD.
Anyhow. He sounds super cute, totally into you and I'm very sure he's just confused and pressured about his sexuality. Hence don't make it look like you're influencing him to become gay (that's probably why he freaked with the "<3"). Keep talking to him as a friend, and I guess let him make the first move. Just don't distance yourself as far as to lose him. As a girl, I would love to have a guy would be so happy to see me.
Dude, that SUCKS! Your ex-boyfriend has a(n un-healthy) crush on Jesus n'shit.
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