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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 08:22 ID:UdQb0Zrm

I've been in a relationship with a girl for over two years now, and it's quite a unique situation. Things are very up and down between the two of us, and it can change quickly, but the fact of the matter is that I'm dissatisfied. I love the girl very much, but I feel a very basic, almost instinctual need to date others. I meet people every day who I know I would 'connect with' better than I do with my current girlfriend, and I feel as though I am sincerely chained by my current relationship.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 10:37 ID:F6A9kV4c

Take a break and see other people. The two of you probably need it anyways. After seeing other people, you will know if you really want to go back to her...or if she wants to go back to you. Maybe she is also dissatisfied but is too afraid to say anything as well.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 18:37 ID:yO6a4y6i

>>2

This is good advice, and most of my friends have been giving that exact advice. But, the issue at hand is that it honestly seems as though she wants to stay in the relationship as it is. I care so much for her that I don't want to hurt her, and yes, there are excellent times, but I don't want to pass up something that could be potentially wonderful because I feel obliged to remain in my relationship as it is.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 21:31 ID:F6A9kV4c

I realize that you are concerned for her feelings but you are being dishonest to her and yourself. Why stay if you are not satisfied? You think it is for her benefit but it isn't. She will realize that you are only staying because you didn't want to hurt her feelings and I find that sort of thing more hurtful than just the plain truth.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-23 12:15 ID:SaHIWv7M

Being comfortable does NOT include being being unhappy like that.
OP isn't even comfortable, he's just desperate and clingy. No offense meant.

A good, lasting relationship takes a FUCKLOAD more than just love, OP needs to learn that. You can NEVER build a relationship on love alone. It will only lead to misery. Love is however a vital component in a lasting relationship, but love isn't valuing your own relationship status above both of your mental healths. That's just bloody selfish, considering that if you keep at it, being this miserable, you WILL cause both of you a fuckload of pain. If not now, then a few years down the lane, maybe even a decade or more later. Trust me, it hurts A LOT more after all of that time, a lot more than now.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-23 12:40 ID:SaHIWv7M

>>5
not to mention that it's already causing OP pain, and without a doubt the girl as well.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-25 06:30 ID:78hsQEmt

you make it sound like there IS a for-sure someone better out there...

you could be connecting as FRIENDS, not lovers @_@;

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-25 11:19 ID:0Q3aW7HS

HEY SECRET ADMIRER!!!

WHY ARE U OPENING SO MANY DIFFERENT THREADS????

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-26 00:57 ID:SaHIWv7M

>>7

>you make it sound like there IS a for-sure someone better out there...
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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-27 10:06 ID:Heaven

>>8