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Can't get over distant woman (13)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-01 19:39 ID:bqLSJazJ

Short version:
I fell in love with a woman in her 20s. I was only 16, and so she appeared to have no feelings in return. She graduated college and moved overseas, and I thought that would be the end of that. But I can't get her off my mind even though over half a year has passed.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-01 19:39 ID:bqLSJazJ

When she moved away, to a different country, I thought that was the end of that. I emailed her but got no reply. However, after months of no contact, she emailed me and her other contacts, telling about her situation. Basically, she has been super-busy, which is why she hasn't been able to reply to any of our emails. She told us about having a really difficult time at the new school where she's teaching, where the principal doesn't care about the students at all and the administration is terrible. I replied, probably with too much emotion, basically telling her that if she's treated to badly, she shouldn't work there anymore. To my surprise, she eventually replied to this email, saying that she appreciated my concern but since writing her previous email she had just been overreacting. Since then, although we no longer exchange emails (she hasn't answered my latest), she occasionally shows up on gmail chat, and we talk. Because of the time difference of countries, though, these meetings are rare.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-01 21:01 ID:Heaven

>>1
tl;dr. ...Crap, I did read. Oh well.

short version: stop. get over her. get a life.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-01 23:57 ID:bqLSJazJ

>>3
Thank you for the insightful advice. To be honest, when I occupied myself with other things, I stopped thinking about her so much. Recently, though, I dreamt about her, and the memory of her brought back all my old feelings for her. I'll try to keep persevering though.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-02 06:56 ID:7RZb4BtW

Wow, this thread is scarily relevant to me.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-02 18:21 ID:bqLSJazJ

>>5
How so? Now I'm curious.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-02 18:31 ID:20zehNbs

>>3 He is right, dont think about not thinking about her. Just get busy with other things, so she's out of your mind. I know it's hard when you love someone, to look at girls in the dating way, but allow yourself that. Allow yourself to look at a girl and dig her.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-03 05:55 ID:xyUAgDIX

>>6

Nothing to be curious about, but entire first post (not 2nd) is the same situation I'm in.

9 Name: fart man : 2007-01-03 11:18 ID:MxLW/3Kw

i feel sorry for u, but i totally agree with the suggestion in >>3. try to keep urself busy(but not busy with wanking).

hope u find another good girl.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-04 14:28 ID:5LwUX0pV

I'm pretty much a similar situation, except the gender roles are reversed and he's five years older.

See, pretty much everything you wrote in the 2nd post is relevant to my situation, except we can't communicate effectively without using one of our friends as a medium. Ridiculous right?

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-05 19:35 ID:bqLSJazJ

>>10
Wow, that must be tough, especially if he still says romantic things...at least in my situation, she hasn't shown too many signs of romantic interest in me. Thanks for the advice, and good luck moving on. I'll try my best, too.

12 Name: fart man : 2007-01-07 12:14 ID:MxLW/3Kw

i guess what >>10 says clearly shows what will happen next. as she says u will find u r moving on or things keep moving.

i know that distance is a big obstacle when someone loves someone, but it helps very well when someone wants to forget someone.

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-06 07:07 ID:bqLSJazJ

Shit. This shouldn't be as hard as it is.