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Love is hard (20)

1 Name: shy-kun : 2007-01-12 15:39 ID:QFiwIYcU

A few months ago, my friend told the girl I liked about my feelings for her, so she told me and asked me if I wanted to ask her out, I said yes and asked her, but now it seems like that never even happened. I'm thinking that it was too forced, and wish it could have waited 'till I was ready, but now, because I'm very shy always, I can't even bring myself to speak to her, even knowing this, it feels like she's ignoring me. I think I should ask her out again, this time on my terms, when I'm confident, ready, and prepared. But I don't want to do that for a week or two, because recently, I got in a fight, and I have a black/greenish/reddish eye, and I'm always self concious ablout how I look, so I'm in no condition to handle this situation. I really need help w/ this. Advice?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-12 18:55 ID:Heaven

Wait, what? You asked her out? And then she cancelled and no new date was set?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-12 19:05 ID:ZX1a8ctN

Stop dicking around.

If you had just came out and stated your feelings without being all weird or abrupt you'd have been perfectly fine. Instead you waited until she found out and it became strange and somewhat awkward.

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4 Name: fart man : 2007-01-12 22:09 ID:P7lE98CK

[my friend told the girl ]
why ur friend did that in the first place??

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-12 23:40 ID:Heaven

>>3 is harsh but does have some points. >>1, Don't alienate the girl, don't put her on a pedistal. She's a human being as well.

6 Name: fart man : 2007-01-13 04:50 ID:P7lE98CK

be careful, she migh punch u too.

7 Name: shy-kun : 2007-01-13 19:51 ID:NpUrb81d

thanx >>3, I agree that was kinda harsh, but there was really good advice in there.

8 Name: shy-kun : 2007-01-17 14:06 ID:QFiwIYcU

 Still can't talk, and, now, thing is getting more complicated. This girl, me, our friend( lets call her "2" ) and our other friend("3"), have a little group. We all share one class, and I also share a class with the afore mentioned girl. Problem is, she shares a class with 3, and they seem very very close, too close, especially because whenever they are around me, they are acting like I am not even there. 
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9 Name: Friendly Fellow : 2007-01-18 00:28 ID:KK7Gi6rR

Ask her when you're ready, but the primary thing you should told her now is that you're shy.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-18 07:31 ID:ZX1a8ctN

Sorry about it being somewhat tough but believe me when I say that you need a little kick in the ass now. If you don't have someone driving home a little harsh advice now that will actually get you motivated to act then things will be alot tougher later on, trust me.

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11 Name: shy-kun : 2007-01-18 12:22 ID:QFiwIYcU

but these days, she's not just not talking to me, shes also ignoring me. now she wont even walk through the same door as me, yesterday morning, I tried holding the door open for her, after which I was going to try to start a conversation, she saw me, she got this look on her face, and walked through the other door. SNUBBED!!!!
at this point, even though I still have some feelings for her, I'm ready to end this.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-18 13:22 ID:9dTPyzyb

well if she is avoiding you or purpose you should ask her why. i know it takes a lot out of you, but do it without freaking out and don't be scared to be a bit more aggressive.
ask her what happened, and WHY is she avoiding you. if her answer doesn't satisfy you, press on more and ask her why she agreed to go out with you in the first place. and be prepared for harsh answers.

13 Name: fart man : 2007-01-18 18:39 ID:P7lE98CK

i dont agree on that. i think >>1 shouldnt ask anything and leave her alone. or just ask one question and no more however unsatisfying her answer might be.

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14 Name: fart man : 2007-01-18 18:39 ID:P7lE98CK

i dont agree on that. i think >>1 shouldnt ask anything and leave her alone. or just ask one question and no more however unsatisfying her answer might be.

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15 Name: shy-kun : 2007-01-19 14:16 ID:QFiwIYcU

fart man, you posted that twice!
(stating the obvious)

16 Name: fart man : 2007-01-20 03:55 ID:P7lE98CK

oh excuse me.

17 Name: shy-kun : 2007-01-20 13:01 ID:ItNnkAJF

you're excused.

18 Name: fart man : 2007-01-22 10:51 ID:P7lE98CK

thank u

19 Name: shy-kun : 2007-01-23 15:14 ID:QFiwIYcU


20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-24 12:20 ID:Heaven

Damn, after a while all these threads read the same...