First of all I'm a girl.
I've just started getting 'closer' with my boyfriend, as in physically. He's very self-concious about himself, and so am I so it's a huge step, i guess.
Please hang yourself.
If you're going to talk about sex and then deny him, YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG. Tell him that you have no intrest in sex with him and leave. There's no way to avoid hurting him at this point, though if you're frank you might be able to avoid turning him into a bitter guy with no desire for relationships.
Well i don't know much about being gay, but i fell in love with a guy once and it was pretty messed up. For you , if you are really not attracted sexually to him at all, I mean not even a little?, well break it off before yo do have sex with him cause if you break it of after wards, man his confidence is gonna come crashing down!
You are such a tease! Even as a girl teases piss me off. I am with >>2 on this one.
For both of your sake's, be honest with him. Actions speak louder then words, especially if your not saying what you are thinking.
You don't want to hurt him again? You already harmed him the first time you broke up, and then again the second time. Hey, I think the best thing for him is for you to BREAK UP WITH HIM and never get back with him again. This is why I don't like when couples get back together. The reason why you broke up will never go away.
1) Set the boundaries in your relationship. If you dont love him cut off the relationship right now. You dont have time to waste in something your are not totally interested in. He will get over it. You are not the last woman on earth.