know it's long but I really need your help....
I have a big problem. My best friend, about 2 months ago found out I was bi and that also I had a big crush on her these past 2 years. Well, a week after telling her all that, she suddenly decided she was bi too. Her sudden "realization" of her sexuality made me skeptical. I mean, all these years she has been telling me about all these guys she thought were totally hot. I had even asked her a few times before what she thought about lesbians and she replied by saying it was nasty and wrong. So now she's only checking out girls, and pays no attention to guys whatsoever. And now she's suddenly getting crushes on girls in like 1 day! I mean, someone like her suddenly having a HUGE flip like that? It makes me wonder if she's bi just because of me. But, I don't want her to suddenly change her lifestyle just because of me. About a month ago she started doing things like holding my hand, kissing me on the cheek, but before all the small things she went ahead and did something big. She decided she wanted to run before she crawled. That really made me upset. She started things off the wrong way. I mean, I haven't even had a real kiss yet. I didn't want things to be like that. And the part that makes me upset is that she said she did it to "Prove to me that she cares." She constantly does things to prove herself. But I only want her to do things just because she wants to. Not to just prove a point.
Hmm...Well, just tell her you don't feel that way about her, and then, as a friend, say that she shouldn't just turn off men, but to decide after a while.
Or find her a man so sexy she swears off women.
to comment on one single line from >>1:
"I don't want a girlfriend that constantly has guys after her."
If she encourages people to chance after her, then you can complain. She can never "stop" people, she can however discourage them. One does not control the lives of others. If they're gonna be retarded asshats and fanboy/girl too much even though such actions have been shown to not approved, it's their own fault and not the fault of the one they stalk.
Just tell her: "You love me, I know this, but I don't love you. You became someone else, someone I don't appriciate. Hey, my love was based on stupid and superficial characteristics, I'm sorry I turned you into a fucking lamo in my eyes with my idiotic confession. In the end I didn't care enough about you to be serious about this and roll with the punches, and you're obviously only obsessing about me, you don't really know what love is all about in the first place. But hey, neither do I, I'm too confused at this point, yeah we are both totally fucking out there like pluto."
Saying there is no way out is meant to spur a violent reaction of non-acceptance towards the statement in the recieving party. It sometimes works.
your friends not bi. i'm convinced that she's just doing that to get your attention. people don't change in an instant. i also think the reason why your friend just let other guys hit on her is bcause she's testing if you'll be jealous. your friend is totally into you so i bet she's doing everything she can to get through to you.