Well I'm pretty sure that FO is non-Asian (I've seen her post in normal English), taking on the "Confucius say.." persona. Anyway, quite off topic.
I'd say >>14 has got it right. I understand FO's girl positioning explanation. After all, I've been in those types of situations myself. But it's as if she's not taking OP seriously enough.
>>Getting mad because OP hints he won't fight for her love?
Shows immaturity, selfishness and lack of understanding of OP's position.
>>Ditching OP at the last minute despite a whole weeks worth of anticipation?
She just bailed out on a mere whim. Hanging out with her bf instead? Please.
These two questions should at least be answered before even sympathising with the girl.