I really like my best friend. I'm afraid to tell her because it may ruin our friendship. I don't know what to do. She has a boyfriend right now so I'm not gonna tell her for now.
Don't do what I did, and tell her, get rejected and then go out your way to ruin her relationship to satisfy your anger.
Well, I know that if I told her, our friendship wouldn't deteriorate.
But there's always the possibility that it could happen. >< I'm so confused right now.
No, really just tell her. You can't spend this long holding feelings deep inside! Let it out and let it flow through you! (shit sorry, i started quoting 80s songs)
Seriously, just take the chance and sweep her off her feet and shit!
Yes and tell her that you like her and she will give you "I only like you as a friend" spiel. If you don't believe me read the old threads and you will see what I mean.
OP forgot to mention that its her sister.
This happened to me too. I liked my best friend who had a boyfriend and told her. Of course she rejected me (man what was I thinking) and stayed with her boyfriend. Luckily we are still best friends after that. But I still like her ;_;
I could never fall for a girl who already has a boyfriend...guess my ego is too huge to fall for someone who already loves someone else. But it's kinda nice though...
I'm too polite, myself; If I find out that someone's with another person, I can hope that they become available, but that's about it... I won't 'move in' and try to disrupt them for my own sake, as I would be hurt if someone did that with my girlfriend;
Man, if she's interested, you'll know soon enough, for the time being, I would prefer enjoying the bottled tension, from afar. But this is coming from a coward when it comes to these sorts of things.
I am in the exact same problem as you, but she's the one who's afraid at what it could do to our friendship. Hang in there, OP. It's like post 11 says, if something is bound to happen, it will.
"If something is bound to happen, it will" is a phrase that discourages proactivity.
As someone who's tried his luck with every best friend he's ever had, I can guarantee you that there will, at least temporarily, be negative strain on your friendship if the sentiment isn't mutual. This doesn't mean discourage it. On the contrary, mutual honesty and openness is the reason you're best friends to begin with, and not admitting your extreme feelings for her will feel counterintuitive.
But I don't plan to steal her from her boyfriend or make them break up. She's my best friend and I'd never do that. I think I'll just wait until she's single. It's better.
while you wait...why dont you meet some other girls? you know, to keep you ready
>>15 Ew I don't like the idea of "staying ready" as if every other female could be disposable. Despite this, OP, it's very likely that your next relationship will be a rebound relationship whether you mean for it to be or not.