lately, I've been feeling poorly on the whole dating thing. Not because I'm afraid to be rejected (although that may be a root cause), but instead, even if I'm friends with a girl, even if she's really attractive, I can't imagine wanting to go out with her. Anyone else feel like that? I've never had a positive experience with any girl, and I'm more just sick of it. I can't comprehend a girl actually ASKING me to do something, let along talk to me in any way other than just a friendly acquaintance sort of way, but if that did happen I can't conceive of a possible situation in which I would be happy being with any girl. I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever been like this.
Do you think you might be gay?
I feel the same way. I've had a few bad experiences with women. Right now I'm at the point where I don't even want to be bothered with them (in a relationship kind of way). My co-workers kind of look at me weird when I display no interest whatsoever in the opposite gender. It's a temporary phase, at least for me it is. Right now I'm not exactly sour from my past relationships, but I know what I'm getting into if I got into another one. Basically, I don't feel like dealing with the bullshit again. And there's a lot of bullshit to be dealt with especially if you're dealing with women. Like I said, I'm not gay, I just know how women are, and for the time being, I don't want to deal with that shit.
Yeah I agree... You don't have to be gay to be not interested in girls... I mean you can be neutral... Not gay or not looking for a girl. And people should respect you for that. People calling people gay because they don't feel attracted to the opposite is insulting both straight and gay people... And they should be ashamed for calling you gay.
I didn't mean to be insulting by asking if you thought you might be gay. I just thought that since you say you have no romantic interest in women whatsoever, that it might be a possibility you hadn't yet considered.
I feel that way immediately after I masturbate.
for me at least, it's not that I'm not attracted to them, far from it, I am very attracted to women, I just can't imagine a realistic situation where I would meet a girl and enjoy myself. So it's not no interest whatsoever, but rather not wanting to even get into the relationship thing. I suppose in that way I agree with 3.
I think that the only true way to be happy with women is to go for the fuck, before developing deep feelings and attachment... and when this happens, just leave her.
When we have feelings we are already on the way to our doom, it always ends badly, because it's the only way it can 'end' in fact, and often when it ends it ruins the entire thing by giving a period of shitty moods as long as the time you were happy with the girl.
>chatting is the sure way to have yourself emotionally attached to the woman too fast.
Because you can't see her face, and so you don't have a constant feeling of wanting to jump on her.
You guys keep saying "that's how women are," but women are pretty tired of "how men are," too.
Not caring about being in a relationship isn't a bad thing. At least it's better than not being able to stay single for at least a week or something like that. Issues, much?
I just can't imagine a realistic situation where I would meet a girl and enjoy myself.
you could always experiment with a relative like your mother.
I'm mostly the same way, though I've never even been friends with a girl.
>I know I'm not gay. I once followed the lines of reasoning expressed by some in this thread and concluded that if I am not attracted to girls, I must be attracted to men.
> The only girls I've ever felt attracted to are creations of ink and paint (or pixels and phosphors), not flesh and blood.