I think I have a problem here: whenever I fall in love I cannot really enjoy it, thinking I'm just wasting my time.
I'm an exceptionally intelligent man, with multiple interests, tackling chem, pysics, astronomy majors (one can do that here) at the same time, without even trying much. Same time I'm quite into IT and even find time for stuff unrealated to science. Like becoming a sort of expert on classic Hollywood movies, learning japanese. However my interests change quite often, sometimes every few months, once I'm statisfied with the level of knoweledge reached.
I'm sorry I don't know how to help...
I also need a little help.
I am stalking my friends english teacher. once I get my license I'm just going to drive by her house slowly...
A lot of people think I'm crazy.
I think you just have commitment phobia. You're afraid of relationships and how it might change you. You've been too used to living a certain way that you can't have someone come in and interrupt it. I'm just assuming of course. I don't know what you can do to avoid it. I dont suggest you rush into things in an effort to "dive headfirst into your fears" because that's not going to work. Also you might want to look into avoidance personality because you seem to have some type of anxiety problem associated with your commitment phobia. Do you tend to avoid getting into relationships due to this fear you have?
You're scared of losing. You emotionally detach a piece of yourself so that you'll never get hurt. Like your inability to commit to a hobby, you are also unable to commit to a relationship. You hate giving too much of yourself away. You like to be control of things, and falling in love will throw a spanner into routine, safe, and predictable life. You're scared to open up to someone else incase they betray you or think less of you. It makes you feel vulnerable.
Thanks for the replies.
Let me clarify some points. It's not about how I live my live, it's about doing something with it. There are too few people who could really make an intellectual contribution to civilization that'll benefit many, other than reproduction. However I do have my misgivings about uncontrolled reproduction..it leads to exponential growth curves, but that's well known so I won't dwell on it. The problem is more like I'd be cheating on the majority by favoring a minority with activities any old human can do. To me a 'normal' life seems pointless enough not to bother with it, it's no better than animals in the zoo.
Funnily enough, I was actually describing myself.
We should get together and make some babies..
If you do that tell the board, I'd be happy to join you.
And to paraphrase you: ... or not.
Wait, how'd you know i'm a girl?? lol Wait...are you a guy?
If not, we could just become lesbo roommates and spend our days collecting cats.
wel i think that it is not a problem at all you know that you are too young you didn't yet build you personality ,and you didn't yet find the real love that makes you cry ,don't warry don't seek about love let it come alone , well iam 23 years old women and i have many adventures with man ,but the one that i have loved he died ...so i advice you to don't hurt women , and make "finding a women" and "being stable with her" your own obsession .
love isn't the be all end all of life. there is SO much more to life than finding a party. that is something a lot of people that browse these boards forget. We all become so focused on finding someone that we lose sight of all else that life has to offer. However, there is knowing something and feeling it's right. I am no better as, though I know that love isn't all there is to life, i am always still in a constant state of melancholy because of heartache.
i want to knew you secret admirer...
Lesbo roomies it is then.
I'll stop hijacking this thread now.
Hey I have been monitoring ur board for awhile & I wanted some advice. First, I am a girl, if that offends yall, then sorry.
If anyone is in BDSM, u might be able to help me. My BF loves powerful women, which I am. I have been a dom since I met him (THe good kind though, no abuse) Lately, I have been feeling less like dominating us(in anyway) and I have been wanting to be submissive to him, anyone have any idea what the hell that could be about. Also, I'm losing his interest b/c he's always known me as a dom. and he wants me to be more agressive, what do I do?