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help... relationship didn't get off the ground (22)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-23 01:02 ID:EjW0psvT

Where to begin... I've got a relationship that I thought was real, but doesn't seem to be going anywhere right now... Largely due to the other person... Hoping for some advice on what to do next... This is the first potential relationship I've been in, and I really don't want it to end... I'm torn up trying to find where to go from here...

Trying to sum this up is gonna be difficult, so apologies for the long post... I'm going to be blunt & frank, though, so pardon anything I might inadvertently say...

I work in this area, have for awhile, and some friends of mine who live in the next state over (about 1.5 hour drive) attend school here... They introduced me to someone who wanted to go to an anime convention in the summer, but their group of people would be full-up, and they knew I was going as well, so she could attend w/ me, her being a student in a college in their hometown about 1.5 hour away, which isn't hardly a drive at all;

It turned out she was into many of the things I was into, such as a particular anime, and some other things... We go to talking more & more, even texting back & forth, becoming very close... At first, there were jokes about us being together at the convention, then the joking became more serious about being together by the time the convention came, and then the decision was sorta made to be boyfriend & girlfriend...

I'm the shy, very embarrassed type, and she seemed to be as well, neither of us having been in any kind of real relationship before... We both were pretty hooked on each other, though, and started thinking of all the places we could go, and things we could do... Once school was out, and her friends were back home in her state, I was going to come visit, for us to go on a for-real date...

Then... School let out here a couple weeks ago, and her friends went home; She had finals about that time, and her texting and phone calls became... somehow... less romantic... There wasn't the typical... well... smileys, pet names, xoxo's, things like that...

After letting it go for a day or so, I kept sending a text each day to wish her luck at work or somesuch like that... Eventually, she did reply and said that when she has.... problems (read: PMS), she becomes somewhat antisocial... and that it wasn't me...

She apologized, but started to mention wanting to 'take it slow'... We'd discussed this before, and that was already our plan, so I was surprised it came up again... But she went back to being her usual old-style flirty happy self, at least it appeared so, so I thought nothing of it...

Then, not one day after she'd sent me a txt (after talking for awhile on the phone) reading: "Just wanted to say I love you"... I came to visit...

(Gonna post the other half in it's own post onto this)