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help... relationship didn't get off the ground (22)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-23 01:02 ID:EjW0psvT

Where to begin... I've got a relationship that I thought was real, but doesn't seem to be going anywhere right now... Largely due to the other person... Hoping for some advice on what to do next... This is the first potential relationship I've been in, and I really don't want it to end... I'm torn up trying to find where to go from here...

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-24 12:50 ID:5z+Vxx+I

She most likely wants to flirt during the trip and is too ashamed of that, so she doesn't tell anyone. Maybe she is planning something big, and you are on her way.

You must not think of her as a granted love.

14 Name: OP : 2007-05-24 12:55 ID:aNQLHevz

I sincerely hope that's not the case, but even if she did, at least being turned down could be understood, I suppose... It would be better than nothing, which is what's going on now...

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-24 14:00 ID:5z+Vxx+I

Just because people break up it doesn't mean that what they had was real, or that their feelings were false. People aren't obliged to only like one person forever. Humans love many people, they even love two people at the same time without being aware of it. Jesus they can even date someone and love her more than anything and still love someone else too.

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16 Name: OP : 2007-05-24 14:39 ID:aNQLHevz

Thanks for the words of encouragement... Here's hoping it's just a symptom of wanting to take it slow...

>>15 I know and fully agree (in fact, you sound very much like a friend of mine, who has made similar comments...), except that it wasn't really a breakup at all, or had anything to do with not loving each other..., she just suddenly didn't show any interest in me at all when we met, and acted like a different person, even to her friends, then hasn't talked about it since...

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17 Name: OP : 2007-05-24 14:41 ID:aNQLHevz

(Ironically, I suppose all this would be better had we both had previous experience in the whole, dating, bf/gf, etc... type of thing... This is a first for both of us, neither of us being used to this kind of thing, so it's frankly really scary for me too...)

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-24 15:51 ID:5z+Vxx+I

Hahah, >>15 here, if this is your first time in a situation like this, you really should be taking the whole experience in and enjoying it, think about this as a lesson about life/dating/women you can only take once.

19 Name: OP : 2007-05-31 15:49 ID:aNQLHevz

OP here with a real (and positive!) update... Sorry for the long post!

After trying to get ahold of her for awhile, I finally got up the courage to actually call yesterday... After leaving a voice mail, I called again, on a lark... And got her mother, lol!

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-31 18:54 ID:Pdh9+JK4

Yay ~

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-10 01:40 ID:eJZHn6Qv

well that was quite a nice story, i hope things will work out for you

22 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2007-06-10 03:20 ID:1clkmOWE

SWEET! So does this mean the start of a new beggining?