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being average... (19)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 21:55 ID:gFKDC+EC

well, first time posting on 4-ch, so here goes nothing... ^^;;

i'm just an average asian guy who lived in the US (in LA So Cal) for over 12 years now. i'm going to be 30 by the end of this year and lately a little depress because... well, i have yet had a actual meaningful relationship with someone. i was more or less ur everyday nerdy asian student back in high school (which is to say i keep to myself and just study most of the time) and college and only made a small handful of close friends (all guys and most of them have gf now). i've went on a few dates before but nothing really connected (and no, i'm not a virgin). i've met girls at work too but most of them either have bf or just want to be friends. now, facing the big three O, i'm starting to think, am i just too average...?

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2 Name: j2sexy : 2007-06-05 21:57 ID:Zm0l125H

ur cleerly not average u gay liar. sheesh.....

theres no such thing as "normal" when it comes 2 people. were all different

3 Name: Harry Potter : 2007-06-05 21:58 ID:6VXCmTcg

too long didn't read...

4 Name: j2sexy : 2007-06-05 21:59 ID:Zm0l125H

nor did i lol. i just looked at da title

it tru

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 22:02 ID:lbqe7+2w

I can't tell if this is a troll or not with the amount of weeaboo smilies.

6 Name: j2sexy : 2007-06-05 22:21 ID:Zm0l125H

a tricky one indeed

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 22:30 ID:gFKDC+EC

OP here,

well, first of all, i'm not gay -_-; and second of all, i guess average isn't really the word for it... i think it's more like middle of the road/out of place. since i'm asian, i don't really fit in with the US group that good, and since i don't really like all the asian movies, music or TV, i'm kinda an outsider to the asian group also... and it's not just the race thing too. i'm not really a dumb or anything but not really smart either, and i like a lot of things like movies, cars and computers, but at the same time i lack the passion that many of my friends have toward those things. anyway, sorry if the OP's a little long... i guess at least getting it off my chest feels a little better /shrug

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 22:30 ID:gFKDC+EC

OP here,

well, first of all, i'm not gay -_-; and second of all, i guess average isn't really the word for it... i think it's more like middle of the road/out of place. since i'm asian, i don't really fit in with the US group that good, and since i don't really like all the asian movies, music or TV, i'm kinda an outsider to the asian group also... and it's not just the race thing too. i'm not really a dumb or anything but not really smart either, and i like a lot of things like movies, cars and computers, but at the same time i lack the passion that many of my friends have toward those things. anyway, sorry if the OP's a little long... i guess at least getting it off my chest feels a little better /shrug

9 Name: Harry Potter : 2007-06-05 22:31 ID:6VXCmTcg

US = Ur Stupid rofl harhar

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 22:32 ID:gFKDC+EC

and no... i'm not trolling... as for the smilies, sorry if u don't like those, i'm used to using them on MMOs so kinda type them out here too.

11 Name: Harry Potter : 2007-06-05 22:41 ID:6VXCmTcg

corke is a nut
he has a rubber butt
every time he turns around
it goes putt-putt

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 02:43 ID:P0lKBD9E

so for actual advice...

first of all, dont obsess yourself with the thought of finding a girl. you dont not have a biological clock. so focus on your career and create some positive work goals. this will help you build some confidence and also get your more money.

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 02:51 ID:h6kKnjms

Mind my asking what -sort- of Asian? My best friend from home happens to be Korean and she, I think, is in a similar situation to you; she's not a Christian and doesn't fit into the Christian youth groups a lot of her peers attend and tends to be considered sort of white-washed because most of her friends are Caucasian and Latino.

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14 Name: MG !2dC8hbcvNA : 2007-06-06 04:18 ID:fJh+Ck5f

This is a common phenomenon that's spreading mainly among the modern, well-educated men and women. You are not alone. People these days are postponing marriage simply because they are viewing a society that is so clearly decadent when it comes to lasting relationships. We are much more careful when seeking a partner because we don't want to repeat the mistakes of a community where half the children have divorced parents (US statistics).

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 07:37 ID:sfGofBmm

There are women in the same situation as yours, some people spend their 20s perusing their education and are too busy for a relation ship. But whats different about them is that they are looking for commitment. Don't scare anyone away, but don't be too afraid either.
well , I'm only 20 myself, but when I look at my own brothers, this is what I see in their lives.

16 Name: maus : 2007-06-06 08:19 ID:bNavHS73

Well, I can't start off without saying--I empathize.

You yourself seem to have rightfully concluded that your negative views on relationships (due to parents) might be dampering your success, and I think that would be true. Just dare to believe things can work out-- you're a good guy, right? Happiness is a possibility for you.

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17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 16:34 ID:gFKDC+EC

OP here, thanks for all the actual advice rather then the "colorful" comments.

to answer a few of the questions, i'm chinese but had been called from time to time by my friends as a twinkie (yellow on the outside, white on the inside) so i guess that gives u an idea. i've went to those church youth groups for a few years back when i first came to US but never did made any connection, mostly because the kids there are all a little young for my age back then (i was 18 and they're like 14~16). side note: i'm not a religious person, i went to the group meetings mostly because i don't have anything to do and i find it interesting to sometimes talk to them about God and everything as an outsider who doesn't believe.

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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 18:59 ID:lbqe7+2w

>>18

>>protip: don't resond to thread you think are "tl;dr"
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