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I'm a girl, how should I be? (54)


1 Name: Android : 2007-06-11 14:28 ID:ys5gTTRh

Ive been going out with a guy for a few months now.
Hes the sort you find around these places, hes very nice without being a creep. He loves me.
Unfortunately Im not as nice and perfect so Ill just have to pretend.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 14:35 ID:ys5gTTRh

wear ribbons?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 14:42 ID:xpbhugjn

what is it that you think is wrong with the way you are now? he's with you, isn't he? do you think that's because he doesn't like you? is he telling you that you're doing something wrong?

i'd love to advise but i need a bit more to work with.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 19:14 ID:5G7Ohcwv

moe is innocent and honest. if you have to act moe, you're not honest, it ain't gonna work. Better to just try to be honest with him.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 19:44 ID:Heaven

>>1
Be yourself. Don't force yourself to pretend someone you are not. If the guy is with you because he doesn't like you, but because he can use you as a living canvas for his fantasies and stereotypes, ditch him.

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 20:25 ID:Heaven

You should be you. Just that.

I don't know how is your bf, but I prefer a honest person that never lies than one that act to impress me.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 22:41 ID:Heaven

the easiest answer, and probably the one you want to hear, is to just be yo'self kid. but honestly, its okay to make changes for the better, in fact, i would consider it an absolute must. if you have qualities that you don't think are good, or you know of qualities that enhance you as a person, yet you lack, then upgrade. its proper, practical, and ethical. what are the sorts of things guys look for in girlfriends? the same thing girls look for in boyfriends, love and affection. you can never go wrong in showing love and affection whenever possible. if your boyfriend likes you to do certain things, or certain things you do make your boyfriend happy, then doing those things for him will make you happy too, trust me. same thing goes for guys. within reason of course.

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 23:50 ID:4oRXW55R

>Ive been going out with a guy for a few months now.
Hes the sort you find around these places, hes very nice without being a creep. He loves me.
Unfortunately Im not as nice and perfect so Ill just have to pretend.

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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-12 19:26 ID:ZUil/nOe

>>1
What exactly is it about you that is "not so nice and perfect", and how have you concealed it in the months you have dated? You think he loves you, but how do you feel about him? Can you really say he loves you if it's not really "you" that he loves?

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-13 00:09 ID:Heaven

For building moe appeal, you can't go wrong with cooking. Making lunches and such. Try to get a little closer physically. For example, if you walk together grab his arm and smile, using the pretext of staying warm. Play footsie now and then. Wear above-the-knee socks with skirts short enough to leave one or two inches of bare thigh. Let your hair grow long and try a variety of styles like twintails or ponytails. If he has old shirts or t-shirts, ask if you can have them to use as a nightshirt. If he asks why, say it's because the scent reminds you of him.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-13 13:20 ID:aDvqYplJ

>>10

>>Wear above-the-knee socks with skirts short enough to leave one or two inches of bare thigh.
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12 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-13 15:34 ID:t4ZrBtFZ

What the fuck is wrong with these "Be yourself" people. You know there IS the intention that OP wanted to be better for her boyfriend. She finds him attractive and valuable, thus she wants to be a better person for him. She wants to be Innocent Moe, so she desires to be Moe. That's part of who she is. Not what someone else told her to be.

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-13 16:03 ID:5G7Ohcwv

>>11 i dont get it.
so the skirt hangs from the hips, and then if we take the distance from heel to hipline (topside of skirt), socks reach up one half, while skirt reaches down one third, leaving one sixth of bare leg between skirt and socks???

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-13 16:53 ID:aDvqYplJ

>>13

Measured from the knee, not the hipline. All those distances are relative to the length of the thigh.

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15 Name: 14 : 2007-06-13 16:56 ID:aDvqYplJ

>>14

Actually, that first sentence should read, "measured from the knee, not the heel." My bad.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-13 17:10 ID:Heaven

>>11
I think you're going to have to link to a diagram. Where did you get this research, anyway?

17 Name: 14 : 2007-06-13 17:34 ID:aDvqYplJ

>>16

From a panel at an anime convention regarding a software game that would use moe concepts to tech English to Japanese otaku. As part of the presentation, the developers explained the moe principles that they incorporated into the game. Absolute proportion theory was one of these, and influenced the design of the game's main character, whose profile and picture can be seen here:

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-14 09:53 ID:PCku5WIh

>>12

>Fuck "Be yourself"... Be who you "want" to be.
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21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-15 11:27 ID:Heaven

>>12,20
Perhaps I wasn't clear enough in >>5, acting as something you're not is not the same as adopting different traits. The latter is when you make new traits a natural part of you, the former is when you make yourself act in a way that does not come natural to you, and you have a permanent hesitation/uncertainty regarding your act. An act, rather than simply behavior modifications

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22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-16 03:57 ID:I0AcR8AN

I can understand OP-san.

I agree that it helps to change a little. But it also really depends on your bf. Maybe he likes moe girls or maybe he likes the independent feisty types. So try to change for the good and towards the preferences of your bf.

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23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-16 15:02 ID:Heaven

More childish?! Do these guys want women, or fuckable version of children?!? How old are you people?!

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-16 23:55 ID:ZUil/nOe

>>17
http://d.hatena.ne.jp/keyword/%C0%E4%C2%D0%CE%CE%B0%E8?kid=24613
There seem to be varying schools of thought on the subject as this site has a skirt:gap:sock-above-knee ratio of 4:1:2.5. Anyway, as long as the knees are covered by socks and there's some kind of gap, it should be enough to suffice for a real person, as well as allowing for a somewhat modest skirt length. However, we're going off on a tangent here.

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25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-17 18:28 ID:Heaven

>>24 i think he meant childish as in, fun and relaxed.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-19 04:32 ID:Heaven

more like im a little smartass, amirite?

27 Name: Android : 2007-06-20 00:17 ID:ys5gTTRh

>>12
I wanted to say thankyou for being the first one here to get my veiw. I want to change, I believe that if its for the better then it's a good thing.

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28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-20 04:04 ID:Heaven

>Im too smart to tell him

How can one be too "smart" to be open with one's feelings? I'm confused.

29 Name: Tsukiko : 2007-06-20 05:25 ID:WiRYxBiR

I think the trick is not to try too hard to please him. I mean, if he wanted a girl that waited on him hand and foot, he could just fall for a robot or a maid or a waitress or something. He's with you because he's comfortable with you, right? Maybe the best thing to do is show that you're comfortable around him, too, and the best way to do that is to tell him all the stuff you've been posting here. It's a lot to ask to be honest, but to gain trust you've gotta give it, right?

30 Name: First-Failure : 2007-06-20 05:49 ID:lXe94CiS

Act less than your age. My cousin's 21 and she acts like she's 16, and was confused for one by my other cousin.

Watch some cutey-girl animes. I recommend Getsumen to Heiki Miina. Try to be like Mina in that show.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-20 14:59 ID:Heaven

Or try to be like Shinku, because Shinku is the cutest.

32 Name: Rosa : 2007-06-24 17:23 ID:GIXpOTtR

you have to be honest, because if you try to be anyone else, you'll be lying to yourself... it's a real shame to love someone who doesn´t show their true self. Try to know him better, and support him, with a very bit of luck you'll be doing just fine.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-24 20:56 ID:Ari4vqQ/

Cook, Clean, and Fuck?

34 Name: No Name-san : 2007-06-25 17:52 ID:A3mIOc9+

ii learned this on Densha Otoko.
just be yourself..ii know he will accept who you are.
you dont have to pretend to be all nice...
you can just act from what your comfortable with..

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35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-25 20:48 ID:Heaven

>>34
So changing his wardrobe, changing his hair, taking up new hobbies, was all "being himself"? Sorry, but that's just about the one thing you can't learn from Densha Otoko. :P

36 Name: No Name-san : 2007-06-26 00:44 ID:Heaven

haha..
that's not what ii meant..
his Otaku self IS being himself.
damn..think before you speak..

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37 Name: grammar nazi : 2007-06-27 02:47 ID:Heaven

>>34
>>36
Never thought to see something like this, but...:

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38 Name: Android : 2007-12-01 01:33 ID:+A0OGCiU

Well, I tried a bit of both, really.
At first I tried ribbons and bringing him cakes and being more childish than ever.
And then I tried being myself but a bit warmer and less blunt.
And then I just tried being myself.

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39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-01 05:38 ID:HnXmLnlz

This thread makes me want to buy thigh-high socks and dress cute again.

I do approve.

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-01 09:11 ID:qv1cH0JD

This thread is heart-warming... in a weird way.

>Seriously, how could a guy watch his girlfriend become SEVERAL different people without asking much or changing his approach himself? What do guys want these days?!
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41 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-01 10:30 ID:EcjB6xuA

Ooh, this is interesting. I totally get that way of thinking, >>40 ! People change constantly, it's a behavior that goes all the way down to your cells.

Well anyway, Android, keep communications open with your fella. Not stuff like "Hey you, what gets you all hot and bothered?", though I guess that's obvious. I mean things like small talk. Even if you're just talking about how the day went or how food was at some place you ate, you'll be able to gather information about his likes and dislikes, things he finds interesting, et cetera. And you can use all that to your advantage.

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42 Name: Warlord Kentax : 2007-12-02 03:55 ID:SXSwQFnk

I want a girl that loves me and certainly one that will listen to anything I say (I mean LISTEN to, not obey) one that I can listen too and understand, one that puts love before sex, one that is smart and logical, one that likes to exercise but they dont have to be skinny being overweight is ok, but obese is not, one that cares about the environment, one that shares at least one or two of my hobbies, one that isnt afraid to express their opinion, one that thinks to the future and the repercussions of their actions (not just the long-term ones but the really long-term ones, like 1000 years far, I think about it in relation to myself I'd like it if she could too.)

43 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-02 03:56 ID:SXSwQFnk

woops, said my name.

44 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-02 18:05 ID:Heaven

>>43

>>woops
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45 Name: WLK : 2007-12-03 08:23 ID:SXSwQFnk

>>44
I have no facebook profile,nor myspace profile.

46 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-03 08:50 ID:Heaven

>>42
http://www.unholykingdom.com/forums/index.php?PHPSESSID=c2ee798de20976184bfa37778af77d90&topic=280.new
http://209.85.173.104/search?q=cache:yrkA63cX7FUJ:www.gbadviser.com/cheats/gameboy/id/140/+Warlord+Kentax&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=7&gl=us

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-03 09:42 ID:Heaven

What is this shit?

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-03 17:53 ID:sCxAcD/A

>>47

Makin' fun of Kentax for not blending with the rest of us, I guess. Anonymity enforces itself!

49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-03 18:04 ID:Heaven

>>48

I meant the whole thread, actually. What's the topic? Wanna be moe? How do you do it? Here are some good tips! Unrelentingly gay...

50 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-03 22:42 ID:qJgxQL01

M O E! M O E! M O E!

51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-04 00:18 ID:Heaven

>>49

You can't "be" moe, infidel.

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52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-04 01:47 ID:Heaven

>>51
Oh you fucking....
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moe_(slang)

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-04 02:57 ID:Heaven

>>46

> 4Chan
> Great Board oriented site, everything from hentai to real insects
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54 Name: Warlord Spandex : 2007-12-08 10:43 ID:bvtnamFn

>>46
lol