Fellow brothers and sisters of the Love & Romance board, please read my tale of my first ever adventure in love. I’m 17, geeky-stereotyped, but really a normal and interesting guy. I still collect LEGO toys, but only those really cool mechs. I love building Gundam model kits, Perfect Grade is pretty challenging but exciting, knowing you’re at the highest level. You can call me a mecha-otaku if you’d like. I’m located in the UK.
12th May. Oh, how this day was so memorable. A PM arrived in my inbox from Nico Robin. She said a word in one of her fluent languages. I put it into a online translator, and it meant “Love”. I didn’t understand, so I said it meant that to her, and she said “that’s right…”
6th June. Hey, we’re finally near the end. I was banned from GaiaOnline under accusation of botting (illegally getting gold). Continued with a different account, that I still use until now. When I was banned, I explained to her (using that new account) that I wanted to swap to email because my PM boxes was getting full from her messages that I, in my heart, felt were blessings.
A /b/tard from 4chan would say gaia fag now xD
Well even if she said its over, dont give her up if you really love her. I mean thats so retarded to quit a relationship just because of religion. I would keep calling her or writing emails...
If she really love you she will respond.
I'm sorry to hear that sad history, and the solution to it isn't easy, but you must forget her.
Girls are usually bad, at least the ones I met. Seems that they can stop loving in one second and leave us suffering.
She's blocking me from any form of communication, except phone calls...She knows when it's me, so when I do call her she would put the phone down. That means I can only listen to her voice...
umm what kind of religion is it?
She's been raised in it strictly, whilst I've been only raised lightly. Different leaders of the religion have different views, so what she's been told is "meeting online people is forbidden". My religious leader never mentioned a thing about meeting people.
Ehehe sorry but that girl is retarded ^^'
Was she brainwashed or something like that?
I mean, cmon whats so bad in "meeting online people"?
I see no evil in it either. I'm starting to think she was brainwashed as well... Here's her last message to me.
"[my name]. i cant talk on the phone or chat with u anymore. i have to block any messages u send me, and i have to try really hard this time to do the right thing. we're [religion censored to prevent fights] and we're still young, and i feel that if i keep going on like this, im never gonna get anywhere in my life. i really care about u, but we're young, [my name]. i juss cant. not anymore. so plz, just dont repy to this message.when we talk on the phone, i feel so happy, even tho im supposed to feel the opposite. im making so many sins not juss for myself, but for u also, and i want both of us to be safe.juss let it go, even its really hard. i know that i have to have a looot of courage for this, but i want to be a good [religion censored to prevent fights]. im gonna be really sad, like i lost everything in my entire life. but i'll try again and again, until i get somwhere.this is for both of us. for the better. please understand.
I know many ppl who are beauty and pc addicted, its a common thing nowadays^^.
But well its up to you what you will do. If you give her up you will probably regret it. You got nothing to lose anyway. So keep trying. Call her, write her again. Just be patient^^
Awww. Sorry to hear you went through that. Don't worry! You will love again. First loves don't always work out-- they're why they're first loves, y'know?
The same thing happened to me years ago. I met a guy online and we were becoming good friends. I was starting to like him, and the one day he leaves me an email saying he couldn't talk to me ever again. I was really sad about it then, but now I look back at it and laugh. Life goes on.
Well, in my home country, people who know computers on a average level (like what normal people in the UK and US know about computers) are automatically dubbed geeks/nerds. The beautiful ones know they're beautiful and abuse it by being the ones that dub people.
Love One Piece. This story is not very interesting as yet; technique of dating various entries helps to create flow, but many of events not very well connected. Reader left guessing at purpose of events in whole story too often. Not very consistent, you need editing. For example the 'war of your parents on me communicating her' barely receive followup later. Better to leave it out then. Furthermore [religion censored to prevent fights] is just plain annoying, although it does add mystery.
She's right. Religon probably does matter. If she's muslim, I can probably see why her religion could ban talking to you(Although thats only for the radical side of the religion.)
The entire story is true. I forgot to follow up on some things.
OP, I know how you feel.
The girl that I like is very religious. However, I'm lucky in that she has still decided to give me that chance where as you do not have that.
We're both islamic, but she takes it too strongly on a certain rule. I don't really think she looks deeper. Islam is all about peace, hence the name's definition in arabic. The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) being the role model never mistreated anyone, but treated them all with love.
Dude, for the sake of your own happiness, do yourself a favor and back off. I recommend meeting someone else and trying a different relationship, it will happen when you least expect it. But either way, the best course of action is to leave her alone, forgive me for being insulting but you're making yourself out to be a stalker here. Give her some space, if she truly cares about you she'll forget all the religious BS and try to contact you. She needs to make her own decisions here, let her. If she never talks to you again, accept that she was never the one in the first place and find happiness again when you're ready. I've had my heart broken too, btw, but once you find that special someone, like I have, you'll realize that all of this worry is just a waste of time. Good luck pal
That was kind of my plan in the first place. Leave her alone.
My long posts just goes to show you how much of a blabbermouth I am online. I'm dead silent in real life, nobody can hear me when I think I am speaking normally.
coherence still a problem. try to take a pause to gather all thoughts, then phrase it all and knock FO out!
Anyway, you gonna indeed get into fights if you no careful with religion. In the west, peace is not at all a proper substitute for the word submission. Submission mean to give up freedom. People sometimes say that in the west, don't want to give up freedom but that is simply ignorant of our culture. Only, when giving up freedom to vague entity, then problems.
I never tried to lure her away from anything. We kept talking about religion often.
Honestly, I say give it one last try. You don't wanna seem like a stalker, but at the same time, you just don't want to give up.
A suggestion. Try to not force a relationship of anything more than friends. What I mean is, You should make it clear you don't want her to break any rules she may think are part of the religon. Instead. You can focus on something like..."Since online relationships may cause you to sin, what if it becomes more than an online relationship."
I can only call her. I'm going to try tommorow because I can't get my phone until the time her parents could pickup the phone.
Guys, what should I say?
Seriously. I don't know what to say to her to convice for us to be friends until we meet.
dude, give it up. this is retarded. you can't have a relationship online, especially not with these circumstances. i know you find them distasteful, but try to have some "practice" relationships with the local girls until you can move your ass back to the civilized world on your own.
I know, I know. I guess this thread is over.
Honestly, you should give up without one last try. When/if you call, you should say what you feel and say what you plan to do. If she says no, then thats it. if not, good luck. but either way, you should say what you think and not what we tell you to say.(confused yet?)
AAnyways, don't consider it a failure without that last desperate try! You can even just remain friends at the very least.
Good luck OP-san. From what I gather you're a devoted and gentle guy. Lots of girls like that and even if it didn't work out with Robin, I'm pretty sure you'll meet other girls out there.
Please avoid online relationships. Most girls you meet online will lie about their age and are actually younger than what they say they are. It could be a possibility that using her religion as a reason is a bit out of hand even if it is Islamic. I think she's exaggerating the religious bit to get out of something she didn't intend to get so deep into.
to learn how to interact with different people. to understand how much simple things can vary from person to person. to learn what a relationship is, what it is not, and most importantly, how to identify when it is over. simply put, for the experience.
I'd like you guys to think about this... On 15th July, Robin said that "we haven't been talking for 5 days now." Do you think that's one of the reasons she dropped me?
Though I would like to archive it.
>>34 should every relationship be entered into with full hopes of love and marriage and children, or what?
Isn't that the whole point of dating and getting into a relationship? to find someone you connect to, someone you could call a wife/husband?
think of it this way: do you treat every job you have (especially while you're in school) as if it will be your career? no. you still want a career, eventually, but first you work a series of jobs. for the experience. you learn about different industries, types of businesses, types of coworkers, types of bosses, etc. you learn a lot by working low-level dead-end jobs- most importantly, what it means to work. now apply this same concept to the dating world. it isn't very romantic, but it is reality. how would you ever know who fits you well if you never even considered staying with anyone but the first person you found?
you lost my attention at "Gaia Online." :/
>>38I hate that way of thinking. People, relationships are different from a job and carrer. I treat them differently. And I will never treat them the same. When I find a girlfriend, It's a girl I'm interested in, a girl that I think may be the one. And unless she gives me a reason to not think that. She will infact be the one.
okay, but i don't care about you wanting to be silly and naive. bless your heart, be happy for all i care. but back in reality, people do need to learn how to interact through experience, and clinging to the first person you find and making it work no matter what does not equal happiness in the long run.
Ah, I rather live in my fantasy world then the world you describe any day of the week. I rather treat a relationship as a relationship instead of some practice run for when 'your ready to marry'
I really think it depends on the age and experience you have before you start taking relationships seriously. It's most definite that when you enter a relationship passed the age of 25, you think that this person may potentially be your future husband/wife.
YES! That's some information I can use to crush those stupid Grade 7s that are in love.
Well I don't think you should take it that way either. We may see them as flimsy crushes and infatuations, but I also think that during those years... our 'love' for someone is pure even though it is superficial.
So don't trample on the kids. Let them have fun.
It's not because of that, they think they're all that because they're in love. "Ooh, 'I don't mind sitting in the rain with you'" "Ooh, 'Dreaming of you awake or asleep'".
> So don't trample on the kids. Let them have fun.
Preferably protected fun. There are enough teen mothers as it is.
Well, it's been a week already with no contact from Nico Robin.
It's so dull now...and I'm not going to try romance again.
you will heal, and eventually move on. i know you feel like no one has ever felt like you do, but i'm willing to be that most of have, even if the situations have been different.
Part of the reason I want her to come back is because I just want to be her friend. Nothing wrong with that, I believe.
i'm sure you do, but you will find letting go to be an infinitely more difficult process if that were the case. perhaps in the future, you can reconnect as friends, but for now, it's better this way.
>>51 apart from sulking, what constructive things have you done in that time that might have had any effect?
Big news! My friend who knows her as well got a private message from her saying that I was the only man in her life, and how she repented. Robin said she thought I was ignoring her... I always knew it might have been her sister that did that! I'm going to call her now...!
Woot! Go for it, glad to see it won't be a sad ending... And you better not mess up and make it that either.
Just called her... she acted like I was a complete stranger. I didn't tell her directly who I was but reminded her of some of the things related to me.
<Me> Hello, can I speak to [her name]?
Now it seems like they are messing with you. Or atleast just her or something. Maybe it really is better to forget about her
you need to let this go.
can you at least state what the hell it is you want to do?
else, hoax it up better
Just to be friends with her...and not be pushed as just some ordinary guy.
Here's the conversation my friend had:
for the sake of umma you better stop this nonsense now, kid.
I know! I'm just telling you anything that has happened involving the relationship.
By the way. Her sister and Robin had the same voice when I called them once. So it's possible the real Robin used her sister's details. Then when I called her for the last time, maybe her sister picked it up and never knew me. So her real name may be completely different.
Just checked my email, here's the message:
"look i can explain bout the call...
Looks like you got her in trouble, man. You should have left her before.
move on, learn from this, and try to be a little less of a fucking retard
This happened to me once too, the girl said not to call her home but she was still showing interest and for a while she didn't contact me so I got worried and called her home, and she got angry.
Turns out she was seeing me behind her husband's back.
oh god this is turning bad.make sure you are not in a love triangle or anything...it's not that i am flaming you,but if you are the 3rd party...well you are the one at fault.i think you should settle thsi as soon as possible before it gets tanggled up even worse
this is like.
the most dedicated troll ever.
>>74 I hardly think this classifies as a troll...
It sounds like it's over, over... And you're better off, I think, considering there was no way this was going to work, with her parents being very strictly religious and against this, and her apparently not willing to go against them at all, and wanting to be just as devoutly religious...
Its troll. you can tell by various
1) elaborate (but amateurish) use of storytelling techniques i.e. many cliffhangers, the 'He who must not be named' thing.
How did the party go?
I'm so excited.
"move on, learn from this, and try to be a little less of a fucking retard" - That's more directed towards you.
It's too specific. Gaia online. One Piece. Finding Robin from her profile?? It sounds pretty legit to me.
Time for my extravagant return.
I dropped Gaia because of that... then when I was bored the other day I wanted to see how it's going. I got banned again... but I just went to check my profile.
>>81 keep waiting, one less hikkikomori in life.
Now I think this is dumb, what you're doing here...
She already made it crystal clear that there's no chance for anything between you, because of the fact that she's devoted to her religion, and is unwilling to go against her parents over it... (Regardless of how blind & stupid I may think that is, that's another story)...
Banned from Gaia did you say?
Let this be a sign of divine intervention.
just give up monster-troll.
you are teh suck.
There are assholes regardless of where you go. Hiding behind a keyboard brings out the worst in anyone, even us 2-ch-wannabe types.
Well... I couldn't believe this myself.
As the fasting season begun, Robin sent me an email saying Happy Ramadan (name of the fasting season).
nice job on releasing the info of her religion...
Robin replied today. She said that she thought I was pretty immature after I left a "that video fails" comment on her profile after we broke up. She was crying everyday and now I feel terribly guilty...
Leave that in the past. You were mad, bitter, angry and sad.
Change your name and go live in the desert. In time you will forget.
I can't seem to be bothered to send a email back. It's been a few days and she might be thinking "Ha, that shut him up."
Summarize shorter. We're busy people.
the OP watches too much drama for such a young age, giving him romanticized notions of reality.
You're young and still able to believe in these kind of ideals of love and strong relationships that last eternity, but the experience you'll be left with after this will change you, either for good or worse ;p
I managed to get her back as a friend, not in any intimate way.
I cannot say if you are meant for each other, nor what an intimate relationship might result in. What I can say though, is that if she has any true belief in her heart that she should not be talking to you online, she will feel guilty. You need to decide if a friendship with her is worth making her doubt herself and possibly going back and forth between 'we can't talk to each other' and 'I miss you'.