try to find someone on the internet to talk to. It's really easy to make friends online, and it takes up a lot of your time.
go to chat rooms. they are plenty of fun.
I wouldn't suggest chat rooms like the previous Secret Admirers. Try getting yourself in some kind of classes, socialize in real life, try something that will make your passive self disappear. Like a martial art or something.
Hey, this guy sounds like me. Except he's probably cooler.
>>1 have you ever even tried to get someone special in your life? imagine that you did have that super special someone in your life, what would happen? what would you talk about? how would you interact? what would she like most about you? what would she dislike most about you? and so on until created a virtual relationship that you can use as generic model to implement in reality. then head outdoors and not a give a fuck and pull some digits. the world doesnt give a damn whether you win or fail so just continually try, fail, learn, and eventually take and own.
I've always tried to get a girlfriend, but they all reject me. Most of them say I'm not their type and the ones who are more honest in their opinion say I'm not good-looking enough (which means they think I'm ugly). I've tried a million times at uni and it gave me the reputation of the guy who can't get a gf. I'm actually quite naive and keep trying, but every time they reject me. They say looks are not that important, but according to them I am way below average which makes it impossible for them to be with me. As you might understand, this is quite frustrating. I've been at uni for ages on purpose because I wanted to stay in the scene until I found a gf. After many years I gave up and graduated. Now I'm 31 and still being rejected. I'm working full-time and never meet new girls because of my daily routine. When I do meet a girl once a year, she almost automatically runs away from me when she sees me. It's really frustrating to be so unattractive that no girl wants to be with you. They don't even give me a change to let them know me. They all ignore me or go away. If I try to make contact, they're like "NO WAY!!!".
>>7 Damn, i don't even know what to say. Your post really made me think again about the amount of boys like you i rejected. When I did reject them, i felt bad about it, but since i don't like pitying people i decided not to care too much ... Mainly because i didn't want to be false and actually go out with them, when i couldn't stand their faces (or personalitties, most of them were really weak and clingy, and i don't like that) ...
I am in classes. I'm studying some child care-centric classes at the moment. However, my job doesn't let me get into too much. At the moment, it's once a month, because I work eight hours a day five days a week and need the other two to recuperate and get rid of any illnesses I've contracted from the kids at work.
>Well, at least you were being honest, I suppose. Perhaps you should look to your own advice, too, though. "It could prove interesting once you found out about her inner self, no?"
If you're anything like me, be careful about getting hurt! Because when you're lonely, it makes it that much more painful when you finally do find someone special and you lose them.
My girlfriend doesn't love me the way I love her; our relationship is a low priority in her life, while to me it means everything. As soon as something else comes up, we both know she'll be gone. I have this terrible feeling it's going to end painfully for me. Before I met her, I was lonely like you describe, and gave myself completely to her even when I knew she didn't reciprocate. I shouldn't have done that, because now I am completely dependent on her.
>>10, a lot of guys I know are like this.
->i do have a boyfriend and he's not that good-looking but i am completely in love with him, and we've been together for a long time now, he too has an image, though it's more related to the things he did in his past, and does now, because he's strong and reliable. He's attractive, and so am I. I don't want to sound arrogant at all, I'm trying to analyze the situation so that i can maybe help.
>When you say strong, how do you mean? Physically? Emotionally? I know a lot of girls go for the physically strong guys.
Emotionally strong, aggressive and good-hearted. Has aggressive facial traits, but yet smoothing eyes; expressing his personality that way.
>I've tried a million times at uni and it gave me the reputation of the guy who can't get a gf.
This post is best summed up by the adage "Damned if you do, damned if you don't."
So basically, you only have a handful of chances. You have a limited number of times to try before, you will inevitably and always fail.
Of course, though, there are ways to circumvent this. You could either move to a different social group or social ring, to prevent information from spreading. Or you could move. But you have to make sure there is a social barrier between the two groups. And you can only do it after a small number of fails; if you have a gigantic reputation, you'll have to move a significant distance to try again.
As much as the Ladder Theory is misogynistic and obviously written by a bitter little fuck who got his ass kicked around by more than one lady, obviously here there is a grain of truth to it. Same could be said about the "Alpha male" copypasta. However, they overdo it by saying, more or less, "Women are stupid, and like guys that push them around." True, some, perhaps many women do like being kicked around by a guy. But those women tend to come from broken homes, and their screwy brains interpret abuse from their parents as what is love.
Love= No logic.
Love= personality (and looks too for some people)
I once was friends with a girl that told me that most girls don't go for the nice guy. And that a friend of her's prefered a guy that was an asshole. She also said that she didn't go for the nice type either. Haha. Man, I said she and her friend were weird.
i think that's often more true in younger girls. priorities shift greatly with a little maturity.
Crazy, i hate all of this garbage about girls and nice guys and girls who like guys who abuse them or are mean to them. Gosh for heaven sakes could you at least listen to one thing i have to say is that if you want to be alone then fine be alone be a preist and become closer to god, or if you cant do that live in small village in japan and make your own house out of wood. But if you want a relationship just act yourself and if yourself seems to never get the girl you want then forget dont worry about it. the only person who lonely in this world is people who think that having a girlfriend is the only way to get out of loneliness just get a good friend or a friend who is a girl and get the idea that they will be your gf .