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Should I be angry... (23)


22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-23 01:05 ID:n0ddSnui

OP here again, and I may have sounded a bit hot headed during my posts, but I didn't demand that she stopped talking to anyone. The conversation a few days ago went like this, for the most part.

I first asked her why she was talking to this guy so much. I didn't yell or shout or anything during the whole conversation. She said that he was her friend and that she calls her friends every day. I said yeah, I shouldn't have a problem with that, but it still bothered me that she was talking to this guy so much, sometimes even more than she talked to me. I didn't make any demands. Something was bothering me so instead of not saying anything about it, I came to her directly about it.

She didn't get why it would bother me, but if it did, she said she wouldn't talk with him that much like that any more. She said it was no big deal not talking to my friend like that any more, so she wasn't upset or anything. I then tried to make her understand where I was coming from. I asked her how she would feel if I started talking to one of her friends daily like that, and she understood a little how I was feeling.

After that we proceeded to talk about random things for two hours when we finally went to sleep at like 4AM in the morning. Not once did I make any demands during the conversation. I mean several times during the call I said I wasn't trying to tell her who to talk to or what to do, I was just telling her about something that was bothering me. She insisted not to talk to him if it was bothering me.

The call I made in >>17, I told her that I felt I was out of line to say what I said the night before. I told her if she wanted to talk to my friend like that, that's cool, because I have no right to tell anyone what to do or who to talk to (I didn't say it directly the night before, but I kind of implied). If it was anyone besides my friend then I wouldn't care, but I don't trust my friend like that (I didn't tell her that though). Anyways she began to say that she was of course going to take my feelings into consideration and not just behave selfishly. I told her she was pretty cool for that, and then we proceeded to talk for another two hours.

That's what happened. Resolved? I don't know, but she said she wouldn't talk to him like that anymore. At this point, I don't really care about anything. I even insisted that today she took him and his girlfriend to this pool party at her relatives house (she can only take two other people, so I decided to be the one out since my friend hasn't been there before).

Like I said, I just don't care anymore. This whole relationship thing, the set up we have going on, it's just stressing me out. I know a relationship isn't going to be all sunshine and lollipops, but I can safely safe I've never felt crappy like this until I got involved with her a few months ago. I mean yeah, I do like her. I like her a lot, but I don't like the way I've been feeling.