I am a 20-year-old guy, and I have never dated anyone, or even come close to it. I am normally optimistic when it comes to love, thinking "it's going to happen in its own time, there's no rush," but sometimes you can be optimistic all you want, but then be realistic and just think that maybe you won't ever find "the one", or even a decent girlfriend. i am at that stage right now. I may, I am not at all good looking, thin, or charimastic, and there are tons of guys out there who are just better than me, so I don't see why girls would settle for me. I am just so scared that i will be 50 one day and never been dated befoe.
dude have some balls
> I am a 20-year-old guy, and I have never dated anyone
You've got a long way to go yet.
Well, in most societies in the world, men outnumber women up until age 65, when discrepancies in life expectancy tilt the demographics in favor of the fairer sex.
What this means is that for pretty much everyone reading this, it is a fact that there are more of us men than there are girls, available or otherwise. Logically, some of us (not a terribly large percentage, granted) will necessarily be unable to find girlfriends.
That should read "most developed societies".
I can understand what you mean perfectly- I'm 21, never done ANYTHING non-platonic with a girl, and generally back away from talking to girls I find attractive. And due to my being a fucking moron sometimes, I drove away a friend (who i already had no chance with, the saga of which is in another thread) who I was interested in. That's why I'm trying to change.
I am worried that my significant one is dead.
i am scared sometimes too, but then again, there are plenty of ugly people too, so i probably won't be alone
no such thing as forever.
you can live alone think that way and it will happen think you will have girlfriend and it will happen just visualize you having a girlfriend already before you have one
I don't think I'll be alone all my life. I'll probably find a nice girl to settle down with before I hit 30. probably before I hit 25 either.
If you can master looking for a girlfriend without being obvious, and NOT desperate. You'll find someone, really just be positive. Girls love that shit, and want someone happy to provide for them and make them happy. Took me so long to realise that..
20?, you have lots of time. I am 27, was home schooled and have been isolated for years. Thus the girls i have even spoken to in the last decade plus can be counted on one hand. Add in the fact
that i have never had any form of employment and still live at home.
How would someone like me even meet a girl?, I mean with little social skills and close to no idea how the outside world functions. Many girls being shallow and materialistic and me pretty much with nothing to my name, just surviving.
>>15 Uhh...dude! Get off your ass and get a job, go to college or do SOMETHING!!! Other than mooching off your parents at the age of 27. I mean you're 27 and it sounds like 13 year old kids have had more life experiences than you.
>>15 Oh and you're right. No girl would want you. Who wants a guy with only a highschool education, no social skills, has never had a job and who she will have to support financially? It's not a trick question.
>>17 i'm a girl and i wouldn't hold those things against a guy, i'm much more concerned about whether we get along well and what kind of person he is etc.
You can't ignore the financial issues though- unless you're coming from a wealthy family and/or you're one of those few awesome women who actually (want to, sadly women are still trained to NOT want to work) get a high paying/high prestige job, you're going to want to find a man who can at least hold a job- doesn't have to be a CEO or anything, but at least a decent 50k/year job that will allow for house payments in at least a lower middle class neighborhood in a semi-decent part of town.
Trust me, I would love to have some kind of respect in the world; but my social phobia is extreme. I really am trying, even to the point of going to an interview at a local college to discuss taking classes, but I can just imagine what people would think of me.
>I am just so scared that i will be 50 one day and never been dated befoe.
probably you will. just get over it and be a happy lonly man. good luck
Keep at it, your lot will improve. People have been through worse and came out better then when they went in.
If there were more I could do to encourage you, I would jump through hoops to do so, but it's up to you to pursue your own happiness.
All that you need, my friend, is SELF- CONFIDENCE!
it's obviously easier for me to say it than for you to do, however it really is just a situation of mind over matter. I used to be too shy to even call for a doctor's appointment. Then one day i decided to get out of my shell. Haven't looked back since. Keep trying, and you can't possibly fail, man!
sorry, it's really funny. nearly every sentence
I wish I could shut myself in. Sucks that to live life you need money, and if your parents aren't rich you have to work. If I didn't have to work I would just sit on the computer all day and post to Personal Issues. Hikikomori don't know how good they have it.
I feel like I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life every day, and it kills me on the inside. My past experience just reinforces it. Yep.