I am a 20-year-old guy, and I have never dated anyone, or even come close to it. I am normally optimistic when it comes to love, thinking "it's going to happen in its own time, there's no rush," but sometimes you can be optimistic all you want, but then be realistic and just think that maybe you won't ever find "the one", or even a decent girlfriend. i am at that stage right now. I may, I am not at all good looking, thin, or charimastic, and there are tons of guys out there who are just better than me, so I don't see why girls would settle for me. I am just so scared that i will be 50 one day and never been dated befoe.
>>17 i'm a girl and i wouldn't hold those things against a guy, i'm much more concerned about whether we get along well and what kind of person he is etc.
You can't ignore the financial issues though- unless you're coming from a wealthy family and/or you're one of those few awesome women who actually (want to, sadly women are still trained to NOT want to work) get a high paying/high prestige job, you're going to want to find a man who can at least hold a job- doesn't have to be a CEO or anything, but at least a decent 50k/year job that will allow for house payments in at least a lower middle class neighborhood in a semi-decent part of town.
Trust me, I would love to have some kind of respect in the world; but my social phobia is extreme. I really am trying, even to the point of going to an interview at a local college to discuss taking classes, but I can just imagine what people would think of me.
>I am just so scared that i will be 50 one day and never been dated befoe.
probably you will. just get over it and be a happy lonly man. good luck
Keep at it, your lot will improve. People have been through worse and came out better then when they went in.
If there were more I could do to encourage you, I would jump through hoops to do so, but it's up to you to pursue your own happiness.
All that you need, my friend, is SELF- CONFIDENCE!
it's obviously easier for me to say it than for you to do, however it really is just a situation of mind over matter. I used to be too shy to even call for a doctor's appointment. Then one day i decided to get out of my shell. Haven't looked back since. Keep trying, and you can't possibly fail, man!
sorry, it's really funny. nearly every sentence
I wish I could shut myself in. Sucks that to live life you need money, and if your parents aren't rich you have to work. If I didn't have to work I would just sit on the computer all day and post to Personal Issues. Hikikomori don't know how good they have it.
I feel like I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life every day, and it kills me on the inside. My past experience just reinforces it. Yep.