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Should I give up on niceness & give in?... (6)


1 Name: HP : 2007-07-24 17:52 ID:RTiZa9bY

I've debated this for a long time... I'm 26, and have felt more & more lonely, and angry & disappointed over that, over the past couple years, as I watch everyone around me being couples, holding hands, things like that... I've only had one serious relationship, earlier this year, and it ended because while I was honest & pure about caring about her, the girl lied about "loving me", and got herself carried away playing a game with the entire thing, and never meant to have a relationship (at least she treated everyone else in our circle like crap as well, so noone talks to her anymore)...

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2 Name: HP : 2007-07-24 17:53 ID:RTiZa9bY

A friend of mine, who's literally as messed up in the head from his upbringing as one can be, instead of hanging out with his friends (myself & others), treated the entire trip as an excuse to follow some girl around he'd met once before, that he thought he had a chance with... He didn't have a chance, and became emo when that cold hard reality hit him in the face... But instead of doing the right thing, and apologizing to us, and going back to hanging out w/ his friends, he apparently chatted it up with some other girl, who now he thinks he's going on a trip with in the future (Basically, exact same situation, some girl he's met once he thinks he has a chance with again)...

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-24 20:31 ID:q+DQongb

One of the biggest ways to fail is to not be yourself and pretend to be something you're not. I don't know you, but you say you're a nice guy. Thats what you are. What you need to understand is that that isn't the only thing you are.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-25 04:42 ID:See6INq4

'Be yourself' is bullshit advice. You are who you want to be. If you want to change, you can change! Go for it, >>1. If you believe in yourself, you can change.

5 Name: HP : 2007-07-25 12:05 ID:RTiZa9bY

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I suppose I'm classified as a nice guy because largely I'm always helpful to people, helping out anyone that needs help, always listening to everyone's problems & helping them to work things out, putting myself out for my friends when they need anything or have problems... I've been told I'm a great friend, and I'm always there for people; (Which is ironic, as my own problems & doubts are mostly kept to myself.... I do tell people about them, and my friends try to reassure me the same way, but I feel like it doesn't really help that much, as my problems don't go away)

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-26 22:09 ID:Heaven

"It wants to treat women like crap, as that seems to be the only 'language' they understand"

Sure, women seem to be attracted to the Jerk types (since they're so self-confident and assertive, or agressive so you can't ignore them.)

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