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The Singles Club Thread (41)


1 Name: lanslot : 2007-08-19 08:44 ID:oZgtKSGp

Hi, to all singles

Post it here all your activities, how you enjoy your single life, the dilemmas and all..

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2 Name: Sweet memory : 2007-08-19 10:12 ID:94lGFRsE

i'm single XD well.. very enjoyed my activity i think ^^

just hang out with my friends, closed with some boys without any special relationship ^^

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-19 12:02 ID:TdrKwBSa

I still live home and we're a large family, so it's not that lonely for me. But I'm moving out later and I wonder how that'll be ..

I just sit at the computer and have fun with Adobe's programs.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-20 09:29 ID:tp0I1L/e

He is awesome. In all sense of the word.
Funny, good-looking, athletic, full of surprises.
You wouldn't know it from just looking at him.
I can't help but smile when I see his face.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-20 13:33 ID:+nAKaIkB

I'm single and here I am...

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-20 17:37 ID:WriUernu

...on a textboard

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-20 18:23 ID:1FfypcFk

I live at home currently, but moving to an apartment soon, and while it puts me physically closer to my friends, I'm admittedly concerned that when they're not around, busy and whatnot, or when school's out of session & they head home for breaks, and without my family around, I might wind up being even more alone than I'm used to, and that scares me right now...

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8 Name: 丹頂女 : 2007-08-21 06:36 ID:Mtp4H5Jf

I'm a single girl, but I'm not really enjoying it... but maybe it's not killing me, either.
I used to constantly dwell on how lonely I was, and I hated myself so much for it. It's only been recently that I've looked up and stopped focusing on my single-ness, and I've been a lot happier. I won't lie and say I don't get upset about it, or that I still don't think about it, because I definately do! Almost all of my friends having boy/girl friends, and I get really upset being the 5th wheel sometimes... But, even though I know I'm geeky, and I know I'm not confident, and I know it'll be pretty hard to ever find a boyfriend, I try to not concentrate on it so much, and I enjoy life more because of that. I hate walking around and looking at my shoes, so why do it?

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9 Name: >>7 : 2007-08-21 09:10 ID:CsqMSZkK

(#7 here)

>>8
That actually sounds like what I'm going through right now, (except for the obvious fact that you're a girl, hehe)

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10 Name: XtraRyce : 2007-08-21 09:53 ID:07mOFOcS

i jsut got single again recently...

apparently, i have been mailing to this girl of some sort, in which i met her in a certain convention in our place.

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-21 11:31 ID:h//W+WVO

>>10

I have the same problem, except I was extremely awkward in my conversation. Now I am dreading going back to school and seeing my friend.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-21 13:26 ID:0ckbg8+7

>>9

>"It'll happen when you least expect it"..
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13 Name: XtraRyce : 2007-08-21 14:09 ID:07mOFOcS

>>11

i guess you really have to build up your confidence... it's just plain sweet if you could put your shoes in front of her and talk about your interest with her.

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14 Name: Shucake : 2007-08-21 17:29 ID:hcxAbAel

I am single here. For a few weeks now. Sometimes it feels good-- like when I'm with my other single friends and stop caring about the dating life. But other times I get lonely and really crave for a date, or just meeting someone. My last boyfriend wasn't very affectionate and.. other things.. as I would like in a person. =\

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-21 18:25 ID:I9am+c6c

I have been single for my whole life so far and i am not missing something.......

16 Name: XtraRyce : 2007-08-21 18:59 ID:07mOFOcS

>>14

well, let's just say that you should enjoy your life first in the meantime

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-22 02:26 ID:av5r43E+

I have always been single but I have also dated plenty, it is fun and all but it would be nice to find some stability with someone. I am not really looking for it, but should a good opportunity fall into my lap I will certainly take it.

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18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-22 09:17 ID:qJ2F9evM

(>>17, that's probably why he might never make a first move... We guys now have it harder than ever to even flirt, to be paranoid of things like that anymore, thanks to how easy it is for any girl to scream harassment at a moment's notice...)

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-22 10:01 ID:P6C4YjbD

I am single and working a normal crappy ass job. But, during my spare time I play some games, eat what I like, and rest indoors the entire time.. But, that's only because in a week i'm about to move to a different location. So, I can't really get involved with anyone at the moment. But, afterwards, we shall see what will happen :)

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-22 14:25 ID:4A2cg26H

>>15
Indeed. I never thought I was missing something until I had it and then lost it.

21 Name: XtraRyce : 2007-08-22 17:17 ID:qp7xja2w

>>18

how true.

22 Name: XtraRyce : 2007-08-22 17:24 ID:qp7xja2w

>>19

well, at least, you are really enjoying your life right now.

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23 Name: 17 : 2007-08-23 06:13 ID:av5r43E+

>>18 Yeah, that is just the way it is now and I could go on about how my gender is ruining relations between men and women but that is way off topic. But since we are talking about singles I will say that being a single man probably isn't such a bad thing. Take a look at women these days, they make me ashamed!

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24 Name: >>18 : 2007-08-23 09:17 ID:1GfkuqlE

>>18 here.

>>20
Totally true...

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25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-23 13:15 ID:8G9IAyh6

>>17

>>there are women out there that scream harassment over the tiniest thing.
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26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-24 22:43 ID:Heaven

dating...life?

yeah ill get back to you when i get one

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-25 09:01 ID:X8rAmF8M

>>23
Ask him out for an -exclusive- thing like >>24 suggested. Don't make it a group thing, you don't want to send mixed signals: many guys will consider this a "I only like you as a friend signal" and move on despite the girl feeling it might be a 'safer' way to proceed. While you're at it, don't go with the subtle hints as most guys simply aren't tuned into that wavelength. Again, as 24 suggested, the vast majority of guys like women who don't play games, who are straight up, open and honest: "I think you're cute/attractive/sexy (or "I like how you do __ or are ___"), would you like to have dinner sometime?"

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-25 13:12 ID:APOKtxau

I stare at message boards and my background listening to music all day long, I have no friends to hang with and the only thing I'm good at is drawing.

Every time I've tried to make friends I've ended up being the fifth wheel, sometimes I even got invited to small parties with some classmates and their friends but even then I was always the fifth wheel. It's like people don't hear me when I try talking to them, they just ignore me AFTER asking me in PERSON to come to their party/house/gathering. =<

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-26 03:46 ID:AMe/QWUX

I think I've just let myself be lead on for the first time ever.
I dropped my guard for once in my life and let myself believe that he actually liked me. That's not to say that he wasn't guilty too. All the signs were there, and I'm a pretty wary person when it comes to matters of the heart. I should have listened to the little voice at the back of my head telling me that he was too good to be true.

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30 Name: Taka : 2007-08-26 13:26 ID:xFhZC7mH

>>28
It is probably because you stare at message boards all day that you have no friends to hang out with. As for being the fifth wheel, you should learn to assert yourself. You can't expect people to socialise for you, you need to raise your own voice if you want to be heard.

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31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-26 17:14 ID:APOKtxau

>>30
Whenever I said something they got quiet, changed the subject or walked away. I'm not really shy and I try to "expose" myself as good as I can but its like one of those High school teen movies
where you see that nerd at a party trying to talk to girl and gets blown off before he even open his mouth.

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32 Name: Taka : 2007-08-26 18:41 ID:xFhZC7mH

>>31
Unlike in movies, things rarely go that smoothly. Someone mentioned alcohol as a social lubricant, perhaps in some cases I would agree some dutch courage can help. Mostly though, you just need to keep trying, personally I don't need alcohol to talk to someone but we're all different.

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33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-26 22:27 ID:APOKtxau

>>32
gundam, funny.

I usually don't get past "Hi, whatcha talking about?" or commenting on something they're talking about. (more than just "I agree!")

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34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-27 03:21 ID:wLhirKM6

I have actually had the most success with free personal ads in various places (don't wanna mention URLs because that would sould like I was spamming).

Of course, part of that may be because my tastes are unusual. I'm a white guy who prefers black women. And I've had the most success meeting them with online personals.

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-30 01:03 ID:qJ2F9evM

>>34
Call me curious, but what sort of websites have you used to meet people, personals-wise? I find myself looking on craigslist frequently, these days, for not just personals, but all sorts of things...

36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-30 01:14 ID:wLhirKM6

>>35
Craigslist, coincidentally enough, is the one I've had the most success with.

37 Name: XtraRyce : 2007-09-05 19:34 ID:6/eToU4T

it's me again... i have been sigle for the past 4 months...

and now, my ex is just... hostile to me.

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-05 23:45 ID:tC9Ffz5y

>>28 I thought that only happened to me!

What exactly is fun about being single?
It's starting to depress me at the moment.

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-06 00:26 ID:a/XLcBAO

>>38 My thoughts exactly... I've been in that dark place that being single, being a 5th wheel, and what not leads to one too many times...

It seems like anymore, even when I'm with my friends, I can change moods at the drop of a hat, as it might start out fairly normal, but can quickly change to them not paying any attention to me, and me winding up like a fifth wheel...

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40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-06 00:53 ID:4FiRULLU

>>39
Oh no, please don't do that! At least not when she's with someone who's your friend! Please have a little bit of hope, Mr. Anonymous! The loneliness has to end somewhere..right?

41 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-06 23:39 ID:ajg/6c+4

>>40

>>The loneliness has to end somewhere..right?
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