>>1, you need to post more intelligently to draw actual replies. Instead of focusing the attention on your situation and your situation alone (in a poorly formed sentence) try asking for the board's individual experiences next time. In other words, "lurk moar".
Anyway, there's not much that can be done to console heartache; just make sure she knows that you're there for her, and plan some group activities with her and some of your mutual friends. Don't invite the ex-b/f's acquaintances if at all possible. Go out and have fun. That'll help get her mind off him and back to making herself happy. One thing NOT to do is force her to talk about the breakup in hopes that she'll work through things emotionally with your help. She needs to deal with her emotions on her terms. If she doesn't want to talk about it, don't make her.