I know how people usual use that as an excuse to get out of a relationship, but I mean it. Right now there are things I want, things I need to do for myself. I need to get a stable job, I need to get a car, I need to work on my appearance until I find a style I am 100% confident with. I need to get a life of my own. I mean, I have my own life right now but I am not satisfied with it.
>>I need to work on my appearance until I find a style I am 100% confident with.
Protip: Life does not always go according to plan.
Sounds like you're just insecure, and whinging about how imperfect you are. Granted, it is mature to work out your personal problems first before you take on a relationship. Perhaps what annoyed me about your post was how you phrased it.
Then tell me, what kind of thinking should someone have when entering a relationship? It seems as though if you put even a little bit of passion into a relationship, you come off as co-dependent, clingy, etc. But if you don't put enough into a relationship to avoid those labels, you come off as being egotistical. Where is the middle ground? I honestly don't know.
>It seems as though if you put even a little bit of passion into a relationship, you come off as co-dependent, clingy, etc.
You have been dating the wrong people for you. But still, i think that what you want to do (that whole get a job, get a style, get a car thing) is VERY IMPORTANT, please never forget what you said here about doing those things. You are not on a time-trial because of her, you are on a time trial because you are alive.
I won't forget. I actually did a bit of job hunting yesterday and made a list of things I need and want and how to get them. The one thing I'm concerned about now is how to break it off with my girl. I still want the making out part, but not the relatoinship part. I doubt she will agree to that and I have no idea on how to go about asking her such a thing. I guess you can't have everything, huh? Anyways, thanks for hearing me whine. You don't know how much you've helped.