Because most people who like anime, games, japan, or whatever else is popular here are usually generally shy due to putting more time into their hobby instead of their social life.
I'm about halfway there to not putting so much time into games ;_;.
because we prefer escapism into fantasy where there is no such thing as rejection and everyone is happy
Right, it seems we all know why we are like that.
But maybe we should think of, how all of us could deal with the problem.
If you use the word otakuness and awaken in the same sentence, I suggest you just drop anime to a minimum and get out of the house ASAP. Don't let hobbies>life.
i see, thank you for the thoroughly explanation.
am not an in door person, i love going out, talk to people of all age, samehow that easy but am shy around people, i want escape into fantasy world just to avold them, special avolding crowds but the shocking thing when people look at me, i not seen shy, how do i get over the problem?
The best option/advice against shyness is to just "get out there and do it."
However, that's sorta impossible for some people, like me. Sure every now and then I decide to "go for it," but most of the time either the thoughts of doing specific things don't even cross my mind, or they're there and I "reason" against them.
The escapist aspect of anime and similar introverted hobbies usually draws already naturally shy people because it is in extreme cases used as a replacement for life as opposed to being simply one part of life.
However I'd disagree with OP's initial statement that everyone on this board is shy. I am certainly not shy, and I'm on this board. In fact I am very uncomfortable if I am away from friends or family for more then a couple days.
I think part of it is the problem of how to start a conversation. Anyone can say "hi" but what do you do then? Unless you have a specific topic to bring up with a stranger, it turns really awkward. So, people probably just don't bother saying anything at all.6
I'm shy just because I'm really not interested in talking with people. What people have to say is usually boring (not saying that what I'd say is any better though). I hate small talk and that's usually what everything ends up to be.
If you have no interest in talking with people, why are you on romance?
i'm not shy, i just don't have anything really to talk about when your in a group and talking about stuff. please help
Becaause even antisocial people get sexually frustrated?
Sounds like me exactly. I honestly couldn't care less about making new friends (in general I dislike most people), but I really wish I had a girlfriend.
Haha, I'm kinda opposite. Due to the fact that with internet we have THE WORLD in our hands, I always like to meet people, not to meet or go into a relationship, but to talk about stuff, hear different opinions, kind of what it's like here...only livelier.
That's why I'm so grateful and happy to be part of the -chan generation. Barriers are gone, dudes.
im not shy, but...yeah i know a lot of pple here r shy, well they say they r shy.
i hate when they say "okay look, i like the girl and wanna talk to her, but u know, im so shy. so tell me what to do" or something like that. how can we help them if they cant even talk 2 girls??
because when you meet someone new, their first glimpse of you is their biggest judgement. That feels like a lot of pressure for someone if they aren't use to it.