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Help! Should/How do you date a *non* geek/otaku!? (21)

1 Name: Otaku : 2007-10-11 09:49 ID:Tm3reYFA

Ok, guys, I need some help here... (probably gonna be a 2-part post)

I'm a hardcore gamer (from console to PC games), and bigtime Anime Otaku (watch all kinds of shows w/ a local Anime Club, go to 'cons, cosplay, that kind of thing...)

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2 Name: Otaku : 2007-10-11 09:57 ID:PqbBhH9W


She started by saying that "I appreciate you trying to get ahold of me, though. It shows that you're determined, and I like that."

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-11 10:33 ID:gdlhbsdy

Well do you have problems with giving this girl a go? To put it bluntly, a trial/test run.

4 Name: Otaku : 2007-10-11 12:33 ID:bA4VQCRO

OP here...

I suppose not... I'm just scared to admit that my idea of a nice night would be anything from playing Metal Slug with someone to playing World of Warcraft, or perhaps watching a new show...

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-11 13:56 ID:L8Z7P0Dq

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to actually meet with this girl. You may click, you may not click. It may not be that big of a loss right now. Do it now before you regret it is something I'd like to say, but I have 0% on such things.

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-11 14:12 ID:gdlhbsdy

Number Three.

I'm not the most sociable guy, I don't go out unless there's no one else around to do it for me. In my group of friends I'm the only otaku however I also have similar intrest to them I keep my otaku thoughts for when I'm online and my more sociably acceptable thoughts for when I'm around my friends.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-11 16:01 ID:OfGQ2HAV

Agree. It's not neccesary that she has to like everything you do.She said it's ok with that so then Meet her!that way you can decide if she is really your type or not.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-11 17:38 ID:ta1AVOQq

Reply to her NOW. If you take too long she will think you are reluctant to ask her out-- that's why she tried a second time. She wants to get to know you. Treat her to dinner. Don't worry about your personality right now, make the arrangements first. GO.

9 Name: Nice Guy : 2007-10-11 18:42 ID:5iGHb6/j

Go for it dude.

You have nothing to lose by meeting her atleast once, and everything to win from doing it.

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10 Name: Otaku : 2007-10-11 19:00 ID:bA4VQCRO

OP here again... I guess due to the overwhelming support of everyone... I'm going to try and e-mail her tonight, and proceed!

It seems overall so far everyone's saying go for it (in some very amazing ways:0), so I suppose it couldn't hurt to proceed?

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11 Name: Nice Guy : 2007-10-11 19:11 ID:5iGHb6/j

Go for operation: recovery and say you got a little busy/tired lately and wasnt able to check the email frequently enough.

If it wasnt a long ass time, maybe you wont even need to make an excuse, just ignore the fact ;p

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-11 19:36 ID:jf5SYRy6

Well, now that you've seen our support...
Good luck!

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-12 03:08 ID:OfGQ2HAV

Go for It! You don't have anything to loose Otaku! Good luck!

14 Name: Otaku : 2007-10-12 14:24 ID:bA4VQCRO

OP Here, with my promised update, both positive & negative:
(Another 2-part post due to size... My reactions on the second post)

Ok, I went for it, and composed a rather charming (IMHO) e-mail back, that explained and made no falsehood about the fact that I've gone to Anime 'cons, played games (from Dragonquest to WoW to Guitar Hero), and watch Anime a lot, and asked if she was still interested, as that kind of person or lifestyle's not for everyone...

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15 Name: Kurono : 2007-10-12 14:34 ID:Jz+ZzF6X

>>6 If you don't the con's, which I'm guessing you do or else it wouldn't be a con, then go for it. She doesn't seem against the idea, and you could convert her. She might become as otaku as you. All in all, if you want to, go for it.

16 Name: Otaku : 2007-10-12 14:37 ID:bA4VQCRO

(2nd Half: My Reactions:)

Pro: Sounds like she's got great potential to be gamer/anime fan... She just never had anyone around this bumsville part of the country (Yes, we both live in "country-ish" areas in the US), to show her anything she could appreciate... Sounds like a lot of potential there, including at least having been to an Anime Con, yet not having been into enough of it to have much fun... (At least she wouldn't be freaked out by the fact that I do cosplay at things like Otakon, etc...)

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17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-12 15:01 ID:M9TmIE7I

She may be fat or she may be exaggerating. Women tend to think of themselves fatter than what they usually are. At least those who think they're fat do, usually. As long as it's not turning you off, I don't see a problem here.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-13 05:25 ID:yB4l9JvO

Yup. She sounds fairly modest, and we women tend to exaggerate how we see ourselves. It might be one of those things where she wants to approach the subject carefully, because it really IS an awkward subject for women to talk about. Using a internet phrase kinda lowers the tension around tough topics for some people I guess.

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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-13 19:59 ID:OfGQ2HAV

ask her to go out somewhere with her, that way you can be sure if it's your type or not.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-24 23:25 ID:7XEPvjvx

Sounds like she has potential!
I mean, she definitely doesn't sound like she's going to try and change your "otaku" ways. So, she obviously already, however somewhat, likes you for who you are. And yeah, like, >>18 said, whatever you do, don't lie to her, on- or offline. Just be yourself, and if things click, then great! If not, then, what? You're out of like 50 dollars from a date? At least you tried, right? I mean, what's the harm in going out once in a while?

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21 Name: Just Hurre : 2007-10-26 06:10 ID:IFBV3JsC

Do it! You have nothing to lose. Seriously. Well maybe a couple hundred and a few hours but meh! Better than sitting around.