I have this problems, I'm a 19 year old asian male, my hair is quite long and i'm basically pretty thin.. however, I have a strong affection for black women. I am not talking about the stereotypical black women that talks loudly, I'm speaking about black women that act more white than black.
tip: don't look in poor areas.
tip: look for blacks who haven't lived very long in the US.(bullshit US-black culture fills alot of black women with that holier than thou crap attitude)
You could even look at anime conventions.
I know enough black chicks who are halfway otaku without the ghetto attitude.
lol, I'm black and looking for the same thing. There's one girl like that in my logic design class, but she's taken... by a white guy.
Maybe I should stick to Asians.
Your last sentence totally didn't make sense.
If you're in New York, they're certainly all over. Now it's finding one that isn't all ghettofabulous that's the hard part...
I can't help but wonder how I've avoided becoming one of those loud,ghetto, black girls. =_= I live in a poor, crappy, neighborhood, but I've been called a white girl many times. I guess liking anime helped.
Ah NYC. you definately stand a better chance of finding them there. If only I met a girl like you when I was in NYC. ah well.
>Your last sentence totally didn't make sense.
>I think you should stick with blacks...
Nah, I'm not trying to pick a fight. Your post just sounded a little odd, that's all. You're a black guy, but you're suggesting that it's harder to pick up a girl "of your own kind" (for lack of a better term), than it is to pick up an Asian. It would make more sense if you said you were finding it hard to pick up an Asian girl, and resigned to sticking to black girls instead.
Nothing really wrong with going out with someone based on their race.
Awww. How sweet!
It's kinda nice to know black girls are still desired. Feels like most have a preference for asians and stuff. Even my mother thinks I'll end up with someone Asian.. though I prefer geeky Caucasians myself.
Some people would be of the opinion that you're not a 'Nice Guy' if you use the word 'chick'
>You're a black guy, but you're suggesting that it's harder to pick up a girl "of your own kind" (for lack of a better term), than it is to pick up an Asian.
No, I'm suggesting that it's harder to "pick up" a non-ghetto girl "of my own kind" than it is to pick up a non-ghetto Asian. :p (For obvious reasons.)
Well, I know of this one girl in my class who I found incredibly cute and attractive without the ghetto attitude.. unfortunately, her father is a minister and sorta put a lot of restrictions on her dating life in general.
>unfortunately, her father is a minister and sorta put a lot of restrictions on her dating life in general.
If that's the case, it's probably because of her father that she's like that.
What's wrong with "chick"? I'm a girl myself, but I never really got what was so demeaning about it. It's the same as using "broads" and "sheilas" isn't it?
Chick is a neutral word.
If he used bitches instead, then your point could be valid.
wow.I'm a [I guess you could say "white-acting"]black girl and I basically have the same problem as the OP.And I like thin asian guys with long hair,but I can never find any!!!!!
[that aren't MEGA weird at that...]
hmm..maybe you should just look for otaku's...or look out for a few of the more quiet girls.just know that there are quite a few of us that don't act like that ^^
Well, I'm totally for any race marrying any race. Live your own life, long hair otaku.
Blah, I hate that whole "white acting" crap. People who say that rather ignorant. Since when has color determined personality?
I remember when I was younger and my friend was comparing where everyone lived at. He lived in the projects, so he said he lived in the black area, and that I lived in the white area.
I was trying to restate it how the OP said it ^^
but yeah...I know it is pretty sad that people use race to determine personality sometimes.I guess they use it for a lack of words to describe what they mean sometimes...
I'm not one to stereotype people, I usually treat anyone and everyone nicely unless they become the big three: rude, loud, and obnoxious.
You can thank the modern "Civil Rights" charlatans for that attitude. Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, and that wacko Louis Farrakhan. As far as I know those constitute the three people that have been the face of race relations in the US since I was a kid, anyway.
I am not asian but I love black females and asian females!
Did I post too late?
I was very excited when I saw this thread as I'm a black woman from NY (I live in CA now) who is interested in dating asian men. I'm am older (39), not loud never really fit into the "black culture" of NY which seemed to dictate that if you are black then you had to date black. I never bought into that way of thinking. My parents are from South America so although I grew up in Brooklyn, we were raised a bit differently from black Americans from say the south or native to NY. Anyway, I love anime, manga and even before getting into that, I had a great respect for Japanese culture and found it fascinating.
I'm somewhere from asia and I have a problem catching English. So I can't communicate with English speakers. That's why I can't bring myself to be friendly with them. Language barier gives me a hard time.
I am a white guy. As far as "why is it that men of different races want a black woman who looks white? Is there something wrong with black women who look black?" all I can tell you is from my own perspective.
I am a white guy and none of this is a problem to me.
Here is your Racially Sensitive White Man medal. Wear it with pride.
Dude...not every black woman has an afro. I think most nowadays try to keep straight, long, hair you can run fingers through. And not every black person knows every other black person. Depends on where they're from and live. And you don't have to act like you need to treat a black person like they're so easily offended. Not every one is going to flip out over little things. Just treat them with the same respect as anyone else? And as a black woman, I for one am definitely not a fan of that Al Sharpton dude. Gah, I hate him.
Sorry to offend your conservative values, but I got beyond the
> "I just don't know" factor
Thank you for your input. I am happy to hear that you are very open to new things and culture. Many people around my area, both black and white, stuck to what they grew up with.
I'm a white guy, and my current love interest is a black woman. But I haven't quite asked her out yet; it might not get very far.
But if it does, I'd like to know if there's anything white men do that black men don't do, and that black women would respond negatively to. I want to just avoid the Dumb White Guy mistakes.
I'm one of those "Rare Black Females"...I'm not loud at all, I'm a very polite person...Everyone calls me "White" or "Oreo" because of my mannerism and intelligence. And I'm from New York City, a bad neighborhood at that. But I was raised properly, thank goodness.
And just to add, I don't have a huge nose/lips, they're pretty normal/ nice. My body is "perfect" as from what I hear...everything is just right, not too big not too small, crves in the correct places. (I suppose. I guess that's why a lot of guys try to touch me out of nowhere...) And I straighten my hair (my curly hair annoys me), not an afro or whatever other stereotype is out there. Like I said, I have curly hair.