Let me speak to you from experience. In my high school career, I suffered from the exact same situation. Although I did put most of my time into my skateboarding, I never "drank myself into oblivion". This really cause me to be different from the rest of the students. I didn't relate as well to them because of that. Of course times have changed a little and now I'm in College (The girls liked jocks when I was in high school and definitely steered clear of us skaters). Let me just say, there is hope later. It may seem that these girls don't like you and thats probably true. Most girls don't mature into woman for a few more years. At that point I assure you they will see you differently. They may not think you are amazing, mainly thats because no person on the face of the Earth has the attention of every lady, but I know for a fact that there will be more women listening to you.
I think you are where I was when I was 17. I was a lot more mature than the rest of my classmates. Although this has boosted my status intellectually, I felt hindered at the time. I think back on it now and realize that I wouldn't have had it any other way. Times change and people change. I'm glad that I was able to discover myself to some degree while I was in high school and not define myself but what others wished I was. I think you are fine. You just need to continue being who you are. If you change, you'll ultimately never be yourself around the person that desires you. They will only desire what you make yourself out to be. However, truly you are someone different. My advice to you is to remain who you are. DO NOT CHANGE! be proud of who you are and stick to that! Girls all come around in time, there are plenty in this world. It has nothing to do with you, it has more to do with where they are at in their lives. Good luck.