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Girl problems, o gawd please halp (16)


1 Name: tabarnak : 2007-11-07 01:07 ID:KEl52US+

It seems that whenever I talk to girls they just find a way to leave as fast as possible in order to end the conversation. I literally only have time to say about 3 words before they find some excuse to leave. Another that bothers me is the fact that all the girls seem to like the low-life, low-achiever types. The type that does jackshit in school and spends all their time skateboarding or some shit like that. I bust my ass to get good grades and I work hard, yet all the lazy shits are getting GFs. I'm 17, btw.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 10:26 ID:A4y9hN/P

Talk to girls who can't get up and leave, like during class. But really more sound advice is for you to just sit tight and go to a big University next year. Bigger schools mean that you only have to deal with the people you choose to, and there will be a much wider variety of people there who don't know a thing about you.
I support >>3 and >>5 as well. If all the fish in your small school really are as bad as you described then find something other then girl prospects to focus on. Try learning and instrument or writing a short story or draw etc.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 14:24 ID:D3xayn0a

if your worried about your social skills just pretend they are male. after all, girls are still human, so really theres not much point in treating them differently than anyone else. that way they will get to know your true self (most guys i see talking to chicks never seem to act how they normally do and it never works out). all it takes is practice so you build up confidence in yourself. that could take a couple of years but in the end it will pay off.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 14:40 ID:lAr/ykgo

why not try to just be friends with a girl (or several) then maby someway you either get more used to talking to girls about anything and then when you have the courage you can find a way to ask a girl to be more than just friends.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 20:03 ID:uF92ZkiH

I agree with 8. If you want to meet more intellectual/celebral types, try joining a library group or something. Also, if your school has any clubs, you might want to check them out. I know for a fact that not all teenage girls like to get drunk.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 20:32 ID:+uxaMXyd

Tabarnak >>1

Let me speak to you from experience. In my high school career, I suffered from the exact same situation. Although I did put most of my time into my skateboarding, I never "drank myself into oblivion". This really cause me to be different from the rest of the students. I didn't relate as well to them because of that. Of course times have changed a little and now I'm in College (The girls liked jocks when I was in high school and definitely steered clear of us skaters). Let me just say, there is hope later. It may seem that these girls don't like you and thats probably true. Most girls don't mature into woman for a few more years. At that point I assure you they will see you differently. They may not think you are amazing, mainly thats because no person on the face of the Earth has the attention of every lady, but I know for a fact that there will be more women listening to you.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 20:34 ID:+uxaMXyd

Listen to these guys
>>3
>>11

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 16:56 ID:uF92ZkiH

>>7 Somehow I doubt that any girl that would agree to talk during class is concerned about their grades.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 17:23 ID:3rMwz2/O

>>13
True

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-27 10:34 ID:EaCt/Hah

Try to find some common ground when you talk to a girl. Like maybe for example, if you're in class one day, and the teach is being a complete ass, and about everyone feels the same way, use it as a conversation starter. "ugh, this class blows" "yeah i know" blah blah blah. Think of it like, playing "Questions" but instead try to veer it towards a great direction. Plus, confidence is key. If you can't work the nerve to have a level head for a conversation with a girl, then well you'll be left in the dust. And plus, you shouldnt judge people by who they go for or what they think, everyone has their own story. Maybe money, familial, or peer issues, you never know. I knew a couple women back in high school that were just like what you explained, but behind all that, theyre actually good people, just the wrong influences @ the time. And think about why they go for the "skateboarder" or the "dancer," probably the skill they have or the charisma that they portray. I know a bunch of skaters from my high school that got into college off the bat, so theyre not all that bad. Think about it this way, if you have the qualities of both worlds, as in yours and that of the "skateboarder" then wouldnt you have a better chance then just the "skateboarder"?
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16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-27 11:06 ID:87OHLwLT

Those girls see skateboarding as a passion. Women like a man who is passionate about something. When you're passionate about something like skateboarding its quite obvious, they wear skater clothes and are often seen with a skateboard. When the girls mature they'll see that actually there are lots of other passions than ones that are initially obvious. Give it some time, a year or two, they need to catch up with you and win you over.