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Approaching someone of a higher "status" (21)


1 Name: TW : 2007-11-13 02:27 ID:7O335Xay

So, I'm interested in a guy in my philosophy of science class, but he's a PhD. (and a professor at my school in a different area than my major) auditing the class and as a sophomore undergraduate I'm a bit hesitant to approach him directly, if at all. He has a lot of the same interests as me and we have a great time talking after class; the age difference isn't too daunting either (he just got his PhD. about a year ago), but I'm scared to just ask him out, he is a PhD. after all. Should I even be thinking about going after a professor? I really don't know what to do, my best friend keeps telling me I should just go for it, but I really hate the idea of going into something where I don't know the outcome... Help?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 02:40 ID:cIgrNoYh

Let me see if I have this correct: this guy is a professor teaching a class that you attend?

3 Name: TW : 2007-11-13 02:45 ID:7O335Xay

>>2
No, he's auditing the class I'm in (taking the class, not for credit). But he is a profesor at my school in a completely different department than my major so the probability of my having a class taught by him is very low.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 02:52 ID:cIgrNoYh

>>3

Well, that's good to hear, given that relationships with authority figures are never a good idea, for a bushel of reasons. The biggest problem you'll encounter is

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5 Name: 4 : 2007-11-13 02:56 ID:cIgrNoYh

Oh, and I should also mention that discretion with respect to this matter qould be a very wise idea. Even if there aren't any authority conflicts between you and the professor (seeing as how you're in separate departments), the school administration may not see things the same way.

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6 Name: TW : 2007-11-13 02:59 ID:+6Pk9qoj

Actually, age disparity has really never been a problem for me. In fact, both I and my parents have pretty much always figured I'd end up with a guy around 10 years older than I. If he was just 10 years older and just some guy I knew I'd be fine...it's the fact that he's a professor that kind of intimidates me. I mean, I feel like I can't just be like "hey, let's grab some coffee and talk about the Timeaus some more," because like...he's a professor? I dunno. It just makes me hesitant.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 03:11 ID:S8mHuRwa

"So, I'm interested in a guy in my philosophy of science class, but he's a PhD."

...the fuck?

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8 Name: TW : 2007-11-13 03:22 ID:+6Pk9qoj

Hahahaha. I see your point. But, still, him having a PhD makes him intimidating to me and not as easily approachable.
Okay, am I just being a total wimp here? Maybe I am. You just might be absolutely right.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 03:30 ID:cIgrNoYh

>>8

Well, if it helps, think of it this way: a person with a PhD is just like anyone else who's successfully completed grad school, only with a slightly more rigorous and specialized course of study.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 03:33 ID:cIgrNoYh

>>9

*discreet

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11 Name: 43 : 2007-11-13 05:53 ID:t2ibgLXT

>>1

How come he gets to be a professor straight after concluding his PhD?

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 07:52 ID:S8mHuRwa

OK. TW, this is No. 7 here. I still think I'm correct, but I'll be a little less sarcastic in this post here.

The only possible problem that there could be with trying to get involved with this guy is if there complications because, say, he's teaching your class, or because he's, for example, the brother of the guy teaching it. It's possible that, wherever it is that you happen to live, it would be questionable even just to get involved with a faculty member of the university or college, regardless of how distant their position/department is from the teacher/department with which you are associated.

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 09:20 ID:YbpErrk1

Honestly, what good is a Ph.D in philosophy? He's excellent at sitting down and doing absolutely nothing? Doesn't sound very intimidating.

14 Name: 43 : 2007-11-13 12:25 ID:Heaven

>>13

Exactly!

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 12:37 ID:XwG/smPf

you've got to get over the whole ph.D thing. it doesn't make him any better than you or anyone else. All it means is that he has spent a lot more time studying than you have. He's just as approachable as anyone else.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 13:01 ID:PkqePmqA

>>15 has a nice point.

Once you get over considering him "higher" than you (which he fucking isn't, he's just older)...

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17 Name: TW : 2007-11-13 13:59 ID:CYPr/CwY

Just by the way, the PhD is in protein folding: biophysics. This guy is just so incredibly awesome that he has audited enough classes to have a masters in humanities.
And thanks for the advice, it all sounds pretty right to me. It's just a matter of me actually getting the courage to implement the advice.

18 Name: Kurono : 2007-11-13 14:12 ID:sV31Ow4N

You should go for it. It kind of sounds like you're hitting it off. Everyone is right in saying that it just means he's more educated than you. You should go for it! Good luck.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-28 00:17 ID:0ciwSrGz

It sure has been a long time since the last post....
I wonder how things went.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-28 01:46 ID:yqCCPVAd

If she didn't return I'd assume she doesn't need anymore advice so success.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-29 11:07 ID:Heaven

or he was an axe murderer!