I can't 'like' any real women. That's because whenever I even remotely ask myself 'hmm this girl seems interesting/attractive, should I...', I feel like I'm getting a hard slap in the face. As if the back of my mind tells me it won't work, I'll be rejected no matter what, I probably wouldn't like her if I got to know her better, she probably has someone already, or something along these lines. And because of this, at 20 years of age, I can count the nubmer of times I've even spoken with a girl.
You've got some kind of reflex in your head that's making you think no girl will ever want to be with you. And with that kind of attitude I don't think any of them will.
I don't know if you were traumatized or something by a past mistake with a girl, but you need to understand that people have flaws. One of my girlfriends, for example, had this gross slurping habit. I didn't like it at first but over time I was able to ignore it. You have to brush that kind of stuff off and focus on the positive.
I'm in the same boat, really -- though I'm a few years older than you. It seems excruciating at first, but with time, you eventually get over the whole "I'm going to die alone" thing. Best thing to do is to cultivate some hobbies, even if they're as simple as video gaming or watching anime. You'll give your mind something to do in the short term, and in the long term you'll cultivate an interest that can fill the emotional void that leaves you worrying about dying alone.
Well, I have a hobby, sort of. I masturbate six hours a day, and I passionately enjoy it. :) It's not even comparable to a fifteen-minute session.
It'll be not easy to find a woman who doesn't want to marry, because I sure as Hell don't want to. Don't get me wrong, I could spend my life with a single woman. It's the idea of marriage that I can't take. For instance, if you never get married, getting separated is way easier. Do you really want all that bureaucracy and red tape when you're already emotionally wrecked? Planning ahead and thinking of the worst case scenario is a good strategy.
>Do you really want all that bureaucracy and red tape when you're already emotionally wrecked?
>if you never get married, getting separated is way easier
no, it's just as hard when you factor in things like kids and houses/possessions because theres no laws saying who can have what
I had no house nor kids. The real problem with divorce for me is that they make you wait until the person is living separately for 12 months before you're allowed to even file the paperwork. If that rule didn't exist I would have filed 8 months ago, as it is now I have to wait for one more month still.
people arent supposed to be together forever.
When the woman gets middle aged the man is supposed to leave her for a teen.
>>9 Wtf? Any reason WHY there? Fair enough, maybe some people aren't suppossed to be together forever, but leaving for a teen?
I hate guys that think like that. It's out of order. I mean, what if the woman left them for a teen guy, because the were getting a bit older? Guys complain that women are insecure when they shouldn't be, but what can be expected when there's that attitude around.
If you're not married, I don't see any problem with dividing the possessions when getting separated. Your things are yours, and her things are hers. You don't own anything together, the owner is always either one of you.
Small stuff's fine. Houses you can sort of divide but only if you sell it or one person buys the other half off the other person. Kids are somewhat harder to divide although I've heard a circular saw works wonders.
Salomon style, eh? Usually parents share time with their kids, instead of sharing body parts,... ;-)
Yeah I've heard time also works. May be better for the kid too.
>>12 not married people also own things together. My partner and I live in an apartement together even we aren't married yet (marriage is so expensive and we are just saving money) and we bought much together.
By "together", do you mean that you went to the shop together but only one person actually opened their wallet, or that you went to the shop together and actually split the cost 50/50?
>>16 marriage is so expensive
Why were you getting married again? Too much money in your hands?
grow up already.