I've been wondering what's wrong with me.
Two days ago I met someone who I really really liked.
She was fun, cute, and almost too good to be true.
I do the same thing too. I can't explain it either. I want to be on my own but I dont want to be lonely. maybe its paranoia and fear of rejection. My friend has been calling me all the time and texting me but im ignoring her. not because I hate her
I'm just scared. Dont know why lol.
This sounds like it's a fear of being rejected. However, even though I'm sure you guys are aware of this, pushing people aside won't do anything. You have to accept that people can hurt you, but in the end that we, as people, need companionship. We want people to be there for us and it's likely that fear that has us pushing people away, so that we dont' lose them. In the end, I guess it depends on you. Is it better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all?
i am >>2.
so should i talk to my friends even though im extremely paranoid and believe it could be a fake friendship where they are just using me??
>>Is it better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all?
> If you've never loved at all, you don't know what you're missing.
>>If you've never loved at all, you don't know what you're missing.
>You mean the human experience?
You get hurt very badly when you love and then lose. However, you know what love really is and you can actively seek out further lovers - so it's not all bad.
If you don't love then you yeah you don't feel so hurt because you don't know what losing love is like, but you also don't get the highs of love which you can chase.
>>I mean, if she didn't care about you and is just using you, why the heck would she make such an effort to keep in contact?
Just on the whole "better to have loved than lost" thing...
My take is that the one who has had love knows that they are capable of being loved, and they can believe "if it has happened once, it can happen again." Even if they had the perfect relationship and then lost it and are sent into crushing despair or whatever, they still have this small hope.
>>The one who has never loved does not have this reassurance, and is left to believe that they are ugly/mean/completely useless.
porcupine's dilemma ITT