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Anyone know how to deal with a cynic? (As in doesn't believe in love). (8)


1 Name: shy_kun : 2007-12-17 22:51 ID:Q5Xb7Y8u

Thankfully, I am no longer that shy of a person, thanks to the wonderful people I have met in life, I am just using this screen name as old habits die hard. But there is one last problem I must face. My girlfriend and I broke up about a year ago. I've seen her once or twice since then, (she went to the movies with me and my friends, and she went with me to my homecoming though she goes to a different school) and at homecoming, I confessed to her that I desperately want to start going out again, as I really love her, not like, but love. She said no as she is a cynic. She had used the term cynic before on the phone, but I had no idea what it meant(I thought she was saying asinic or something) she explained that she doesn't believe love. Add to that that we live kinda far apart, and I can't drive yet (too young).

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-17 23:22 ID:5NfMNDwm

As for the girl who confessed to you, there isn't much you can do, except be nice when you are together, but otherwise let her keep some distance from you,... She will need that to recover her balance.

About the girl you are interested in, I would say that instead of confessing to her, you should just spend time with her, and get to know her better. Not only will you understand better why she feels the way she does, but that will make it easier for you to spend pleasant moments with her, which is important.

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3 Name: shy_kun : 2007-12-17 23:33 ID:Q5Xb7Y8u

...Right. I forgot to mention we dated for a year before we broke up.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-17 23:55 ID:3FsytZMu

I'm a jaded cynical nihilist who doesn't believe in love,

but that hasn't kept me from loving people anyway.

5 Name: shy_kun : 2007-12-17 23:58 ID:Q5Xb7Y8u

>>4

You're an inspiration (seriously).

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-18 09:15 ID:nV2sbOVM

>>4

Good point,... It's not because you don't believe in mainstream forms of love that you can't be attached to other people, care about them, and wish to spend time with them.

7 Name: shy_kun : 2007-12-18 12:08 ID:BKYZvcwr

I just copied this from another thread, but it is perfect advice...
>>3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-18 09:12 ID:xAkflxJ4 [Del]

I think there's a golden rule:

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-22 02:04 ID:tsQCWPLf

i dont quite know what i am im dating someone but i dont believe in love, though i know that loneliness exsists... but i accidently thought 'i really do love her...' now i'm ascared!