Hello, long since I lurked here and you have solved everyone's problems. Now I have one, I feel so hopeless.
I met a girl at a store that I normally wouldn't shop to. We talked for a bit, I learned she went to the same convention as me and we exchanged screenames.
try just keep talkin to her, dont put pressure, let the feeling to grow, to mature, itll take a direction by itself, also... dont rush
What is some questions I should ask to get to know her better....
That's not love, but you're definately attracted to her.
Why don't you try asking what anime she's in to, or what her favourite bands are? Don't ask too many questions all at once because that's a bit too eager, but do ask them at random intervals. Try and become friends with her, and like >>2 said, don't rush!
Get her comfortable talking to you and allow her to grow to like you!
I'll try that whenever I can. Thank you for the advice, I am basically shit out of luck if I do not have her number. I really should of asked for a number.
Update, I have her number now and I have called her a lot of times. She is starting to fall for me... I don't know what to do now, I am so nervous...
It's not falling for me, she is falling for me, she is just more comfortable with talking to me.
I am getting ahead of myself... _|¯|O
That sounds dangerously like friend zone behaviour.
This fucking friends zone bullshit...
Know what that is? That is the 'hope she's reckless enough to jump in the sack on some early impulse without us getting to know eachother so well that she realizes I'm a fucking dweeb and gets turned off' -line of thinking.
Friendship is NOT a prerequisite. It's all about CHEMISTRY and how much you can garner her interest. No, I don't think you should bed a lady as soon as possible. If you do that you're being too easy and moving too fast.
It could just because you have a shitty personality. People who KNOW you who (outside of first impressions) are turning you down. If you can only get dates/relationships with people who do not know your personality, maybe you should re-examine your personality?
You, 14-san, are an ignorant fucktard.
The "friend-zone" has nothing to do the closeness of the relationship and everything to do if a woman views you as a potential romantic partner. Women, as a general rule, go for men able to express dominance, sexual desire, and who are able to turn them on. They make friends with boys who remind them of their girlfriends and who lack masculinity and sexual energy. In short, "safe" boys. There are different levels of closeness in both kinds of relationships, but they are distinct and you really don't want to end up in the wrong pile.
blah blah blah sexist trite dribble
Women can be friends with people that they also find to be possible romantic partners. To say otherwise belittles not only both genders, but the capacity of humans on the whole.
The reason girls won't date guy friends is because they already "know" the guy. She knows his interests and habits without any of the romantic interest. Part of the excitement that comes from dating someone is digging deeper into their lives. Trying to date a friend is like forcing romance into the relationship.
okay okay whatever-that's alot of bullshit. I'm a girl, and I have fallen for each and everyone of my guy friends at some point in my life. Guys who can handle just being your friend will make much better companions in the long run. [I also happen to be attracted to men with more feminine qualities]
I agree with >>18. I'm also female, and I'd definately want to be friends with a guy before I started dating him.
Very confusing it sounds like. But wouldn't it come down to the person? (Doesn't it always?) Some females might want some guy who they know nothing about and just met the other day, while other females might want a guy that they've known for a while, become friends, know this guy, trust him, all that nice stuff. Same with guys I guess. Anyone else kinda agree? All of these "zones" and "rules" are really weird, and I personally don't think they exsist in serious situations.
Spoilers: Any guy friends you girls get are either too wimpy to ask you out and not worth dating, or they're not interested in dating in the first place and probably won't ever be.
Update here. Terrible news, I asked her about Dating... she may never date me, we're too far apart... Thanks for the Support... I am shocked that it had to come down to this and she really dug me... I don't know what I should do... Life Sucks... _|¯|O
Dig deep and keep moving on with your life. Being upset about things going awry won't make it any better.
Of course, that isn't to say that it's wrong to be upset. You're human, becoming upset is what happens when something goes wrong.
Friendzone shit is bullshit. My best and longest lasting relationship was with a girl I had been friends with for years.
friendship...is going to happen first anyway...unless u meet her out of the blue...