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my boyfriend rapes me (59)

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-06 15:46 ID:qCI9asgG

I agree with >>16, but I'll try to help anyway...

Have you tried talking with him about this outside of a sexual/'rape' situation? And I mean seriously talk - about your feelings on sex, why he does it, etcetera.

I'd say that it's not necessary to have sex in a relationship; some people only want to have sex once they're married, and so on. However, that doesn't give you an excuse to NOT DISCUSS your sexual values with your boyfriend. Obviously, he wants to have sex with you because he thinks it'll be something enjoyable for the both of you. If he tries to have sex with you and you just sit there yelling no or doing nothing, without telling him why, you're being unfair. If you seriously do not want to have sex with your boyfriend for some period of time (a month, six months, until married, etc), sit him down and tell him that and your reasons. And yeah, I think then it would be appropriate to label his behaviors 'rape' if he still does it.