Probably TL/DR. Sorry.
Last summer I met a girl. Thought she was amazing, talked to her a bit, even got her phone number (though it should be pointed out she asked for mine first, and she's from another country, where asking for one's phone number doesn't have quite the "wow" factor as it does here in the US). Never called her though, talked to her online a bit. When classes started for the fall we talked occasionally, but not until November, when a mutual friend discovered my interest in her, and started getting us talking a bit. At that point I met this friend of hers, and while she was attractive, I really didn't think much about it- she was small and super thin like most girls from her country and seemed a bit on the meek side (as well has not having as developed english skills as original girl), while original girl was curvy (in a good way, no fat girls here) and seemed more aggressive (I'm a weak (emotionally) twenty-something. Still a virgin. I'm interested in girls who can potentially kick my ass, but not know they can do it).
As the quarter ends, there's a party at mutual friend's house. My friend doesn't show up, as he works nights, and neither does original girl, as she's at another party. New girl shows up though, and a bunch of us get drunk together. Next day, I drive mutual friend to the airport (original girl and new girl stayed in town for winter break. mutual friend just got back) so he can fly back to Japan. On the way, several subjects come up in our conversation. 1- New girl has a feeling I like her 2- She's broken up with her boyfriend, and now is the time to start making inroads with her. I end up not having a chance to see her until a week later, when she, my friend, and I go shopping. My friend sets it up at my request, but we treat it as just a friendly thing. However, two other friends who we run into conclude it to be a date, with my friend being a third wheel.
So school starts the next day, and I still find things a little awkward. I apologize to her again. Later I talk to original girl, and we talk about the situation a little. She explains to me that instead of going straight at her, I've been circling around in back of her- and she's been watching me do it. I realize I need to move back into the normal friend zone and then take a shot at her again, this time head on. Even then I'm getting the impression there's no chance of anything happening. As I talk with original girl, the subject of my inexperience with relationships comes up, and I end up revealing to her that I had a thing for her up until I got interested in new girl. As of now, while I would do anything for/with her if she told me she was interested, I can accept her as just a friend. But in general, I'm not really sure what she thinks at this point.
oh hay Tolstoy
If I have ever run across a motherfucker who needed a "catharsis fuck" more than you do, I don't remember it. Un-tuck your balls from between your legs, put on your fancy clothes and go to a "meat market" club, talking casually with as many chicks as you can (not hitting on them), drink until closing time (without getting drunk) and then look around and see if any of those chicks you met that might are standing around outside the club by themselves as it closes. Find one and offer her a ride home, then follow her into her house and bangulate the shit out of her, leaving either directly after or first thing in the morning.
I read this originally as "I Fucked Her up Several Times in the..."
Anyway, that was confusing to read. You should have given them better pseudonyms than "new girl" and such. But >>5 is right. Grow some fucking balls.
Write a novel about your whole ordeal. Include a triangle, and have one of the girls be into you, just to spice things up.
He could use these posts as the first two chapters!
Turning into a man whore never accomplished anything. Doesn't traveling down that road open up the possibilities of domestic abuse and a general disrespect for women?
I never hit a woman who didn't absolutely deserve it.
they will come. When you figure out the girl you actually bet on in the end, is just a piece of shit after all, like all girls are in your eyes. Then there will be all that domestic violence going on for sure, as disappointment and frustration take the reins of your life.
The point is to hang onto your sensibilities before you progress to that level.
Maybe a musical instead? Or a rock opera.
Thank you Dr. Phil. May you date a woman who emasculates and controls you. As for me, most of my girlfriends have been into the whole, "pull my hair and call me a whore" thing.
Next time give everyone fake names that are very different to each other.
As for advice regarding your problem, you need to ask 'new girl' on a proper date, just you and her. Don't stare at her, I can't believe this actually happens. If she does catch you looking at her, make sure theres a smile and plenty of friendly eye contact. Try to hold her gaze a bit longer than would be comfortable with someone who was just a friend.
Be man! Tell her how you feel!
War and Peace makes more sense than this.
Man up and tell her who's boss.
If OP even comes here anymore, and he's still having issues with "New Girl", then here's my simple advice: Tell her you didn't want to be too forward or insensitive to her "getting over her ex", which you had gotten wind about. Then apologize for Not being forward. Following this, Be Forward and ask her out on a date. If she rejects you, you can work with things from there.